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post #16 of 31 (permalink) Old 12-14-2015, 02:13 PM
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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

He is at the right age where most people with paranoid schizophrenia develop symptoms. Was he ever diagnosed with that? Does he have family members with it (or other mental illnesses)?

None of us can know for sure, obviously. It puts you in a very difficult position because mental illness is SO hard to deal with. Your best bet is to find a way to get him evaluated by a psychiatrist and treated until he is stabilized - and then adherence to the medications becomes an issue.

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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

Thank you...it has been incredibly hard to lose a parent. My heart just feels like it aches constantly... I am sorry for your loss as well...

He probably spends 5 minutes a day in the home now...today he met me at home on my lunch break, stood inside for a few minutes, then said he started to feel sick so he needed to leave. He says he feels better when he's out of the apartment and in complete solitude. He says I physically cause him symptoms as well, he will barely touch me.
He has tried staying at his mom's house, or visiting my mom's house, but says the amount of people cause symptoms. Recently, he talks a lot about us separating, him quitting his job, and moving to Florida or something and living alone.
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When we went to a GP at a walk in clinic(when his symptoms first started) that doctor mentioned schizophrenia. But when he was hospitalized, they just said that thing about bipolar which seemed like a lazy diagnosis...they didn't seem convinced that was what it was. Then, the psychologist and psychiatrist he was forced to see for a few months after he was released didn't add anything new to help. They just thought he was taking his seraquel and was doing better.

His mom thinks he needs help, she and I talked for awhile and she called the crisis center around here and they said the only way the police could get involved with him sleeping in his car is if the temperature drops below 0 or if he hurts someone or himself.

His friends and dad don't seem to think anything mentally is wrong, they just think he's physically sick...(his dad lives out of state though, they just talk on the phone)
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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

The first thing I thought of was schizophrenia as well, although my experience with that is limited to television shows (most recently The Red Road on Netflix...)

I feel for you. You're really going through a tough time right now .

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He is 25, almost 26.
The median age of onset for bipolar symptoms is age 25. That for schizophrenia is age 18 in males (25 in females). I agree with HotShotDot and HopeShimmers that it would be prudent to learn the warning signs (i.e., symptoms) for schizophrenia -- and for schizoaffective disorder too. It is common for one or both of them to co-occur with bipolar-1. See, e.g.,
Bipolar disorder, schizoaffective disorder, and schizophrenia overlap: a new comorbidity index.

My foster son, for example, suffers from both bipolar-1 and schizoaffective disorder. I mention this because the mental confusion you're seeing may not arise solely from the paranoia that results from bipolar-1 manic states. Of course, the best thing is to speak with a psychiatrist who is willing to speak with you candidly about this. Take care, SF.

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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

just out of curiosity, do the headaches wake him up between 15 to 45 minutes of falling asleep, and are they generally located on only one side of the head? do they make him pace back and forth?

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He says he is usually woken up by a feeling like his heart is stopping...and he says he never feels like his eyes are heavy anymore with tiredness, and he never has deep sleep.
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I'd lean more towards schizophrenia, bipolar is more manic ups and downs but it is more common for schizophrenia to have the psychotic features and paranoia. It's very unlikely he will get better without taking the meds consistently.
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I am very convinced now that it is paranoid schizophrenia. He refuses to get help, I, his mother and brother have tried to convince him to get help, and he denies everything we say. I have tried calling his psychologist telling her what's going on, and all she did was call him and ask if he would like to come in for an appointment.

He is so paranoid now, all conversations he has with me revolve around how I'm keeping something from him, I know what's going on, just won't tell him. He tells me how he can't trust me, how I have the weirdest smell he has ever smelled coming off my hands, and I purposely rub it on all the door handles of our apartment, and try to rub it on him when I touch him to do something to his health. He buys only bottled water he breaks the seal on, and won't eat anything I could have tampered with, and hided his toothbrush from me. He tells me how I've single handedly ruined his entire life by turning his whole family against him (who are very concerned, and still love him)

Now he's rented a car and drove away to some location he won't disclose to me, has been gone for 3 days now. I am seriously considering starting the divorce process, because with his paranoia, I see this being a long road of denial and I am exhausted by these constant attacks and accusations.
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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

Has he continued to be a vegan? I've heard of vegans, who after years of sticking to the diet, begin having issues like anxiety, depression and paranoia.

I'm not saying this is the cause or even likely, but something to look into. It does seem common.

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He's gone off of being vegan recently, he'll eat meat for like a week, then switch back to being vegan. I've wondered, because he doesn't give the meat a chance to work if he's deficient
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Re: Husband has Mystery Illness, and my Dad died....

I'd be very worried about paranoid schizophrenia. That's how a lot of people end-up living on the streets.

I'm so terribly sorry that you've been hit with all of this at the same time. I understand. I truly do. My life story sounds like an ott soap opera at the moment! I'm glad you have your family to support you. All hold on tight to eachother at this horrible time. I'm sorry.
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My husband ended up passing away a few months ago due to this illness…I wrote the story here. Thank you to everyone who tried to help.

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sorry for your loss.

what did the autopsy show?

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Damn.
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