Wife with OCD and control issues
I need to vent. My wife has mild OCD (mostly checking locks, doors, plugs, cleanliness, etc). This often carries into our daily interactions as she is very demanding and needs to be in control and direct the most mundane of activities. What this translates into is a complete lack of respect for me and how she treats me.
I have been putting my foot down increasingly, mostly with regards to me not being involved in her OCD rituals. I have now progressed into demanding that I be respected. She does not seem to get it though. See still tells me what to do, when to do it and how it needs to be done. This ranges from washing my hands...to using the garage...to disciplining our children, etc. I have had enough of being treated like this but I can't seem to get through to her.
Last weekend I suggested that she go to a counselor and consider medication (for OCD). I did the research on local providers in our plan and gave her a list to help her choose. She told me it is not necessary and if she ever felt that she needed it she would do it. Of course nothing came of it.
We do have a great and fun relationship other than the times she feels she needs to direct me. Am I completely wrong that I should expect not to be directed, or at least that we should direct each other equally, if that makes any sense?
BTW...she just walked by and saw I was posting and took a read of this...that was a hoot.
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Last edited by hubby; 09-08-2011 at 08:12 PM.