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post #1 of 49 (permalink) Old 01-28-2016, 09:39 AM Thread Starter
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Hi all,

I have a little history on these boards, been absent as I have been trying to get on with my life after these last horrendous five years...marriage upheaval, cancer, bankruptcy, divorce.... I had engaged in a lot of volunteer work and had finally returned to work about four months ago after a long recovery from multiple myeloma (blood cancer residing within the bone marrow) and a stem cell transplant.

My shoulder started hurting a month or so ago, but I thought it could have been a rotator cuff issue. Aside from that, some unwanted measurements started showing up in my blood labs that showed some myeloma activity after close to two years of dormancy. There were some discrepancies in the labs, so I inquired the specialist two weeks ago about what could do that and she mentioned a plasmacytoma (myeloma tumor) and I knew it had to be my shoulder. I was right.

Going to have shoulder treated with radiation. Going to change up my chemo regimen to a strong combo of drugs to knock down cells...and aim for yet another stem cell transplant. Before any of this, now they want to biopsy a lymph node...as my shoulder pain is a result of cancer eating itself out of my acromium and spreading around soft tissue.

Stormy seas ahead, but I am pretty much at peace with everything. I just hate the thought of leaving work again. I also am bummed about my life being arrested because of cancer.

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post #2 of 49 (permalink) Old 01-28-2016, 09:42 AM
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((((((((((((((((((((Former Self))))))))))))))))))))

My thoughts and courage are with you.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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you are one strong man. prayers out.
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I wish you well in your treatment. Sending positive energy your way. Take care of yourself and try to stay positive.
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Jesus man. I'm so sorry. You're an emotional rock though. Fist bump.

I wish we could give you more than just words
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I'm so very sorry to read this, Formerself. I've enjoyed your posts and presence here from afar and got misty-eyed reading that your cancer has returned. I "liked" it because of the strength, courage, and determination evinced in it.

It's apparent that you are a fighter and ultimately, I pray, you are a survivor as well.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. If you are able, please post with updates and your progress. Godspeed.
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It hurts to read that FS. I admire your strength in all your trials of life. I am so sorry you are going through this. You will be in my prayers.

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I am so sorry about this FS, I hope and pray this is a temporary setback for you. Please keep us updated, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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I am so sorry, brother.

Prayers for you.

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Stay positive. The good news is that your previous history mean they quickly identified what was happening. I know someone whose diagnosis tragically took much longer.

The radiation and chemo will suck. You are strong and will not just survive, but survive and be even better for the experience.

Warm wishes and prayers for a quick recovery.

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I'm so sorry. You are clearly a fighter. That's so important. Keep us posted as you have many here who care about you.

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FormerSelf, please keep us informed about your progress if you feel like doing so. I am so sorry you are having to fight cancer, a battle I fought against the stage-4 cancer I had nearly 20 years ago. Like you, I did the chemo, radiation, and surgery -- a painful process that went on for 8 months. You are in my prayers, FormerSelf.
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I agree that you're an emotional rock. I'm so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with this again. Your life experiences, advice, thoughts, music choices and grace have been appreciated by me and many others here. Please let us know what you need from us as you go through this.

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Very sorry to hear this FormerSelf. I will be praying for you.
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post #15 of 49 (permalink) Old 02-02-2016, 04:06 PM Thread Starter
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Hi everyone...thank you all.

Just had my first radiation treatment today. Fairly easy process. Going to have nine more sessions between now and the 15th...with chemo to follow.

Just going to show up to my appointments and do what I have to do to get back on with my life, you know?
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