Sex and depression
I wasn't sure what forum to post this under, because I think there is a wide range of issues going on. I do believe the source to be depression though, so we'll start here.
I have been on and off depressed since I was a teenager. This has gotten better with cognitive behavioral therapy, but recently I've been going through a lot of changes that have made me take on a more negative view of the world. At the same time my sex life with my husband hasn't been all that great. We got married only 4 months ago, and it's like I can't get into it. A lot of this I believe to be my fault. He generally is not very confident in the bedroom because it intimidates him that I am more experienced, but I seem to make this problem worse. I want him to be more confident, but then when he tries and if I don't respond it kills his confidence even more. I don't know what to do. He is patient and supportive while I am struggling with depression, but I feel completely disconnected from him. He kisses me and I feel nothing. It isn't fair to him at all, but I don't know what to do. And yes I am aware that putting this pressure on myself probably does not help, but if you are familiar with the way depression works you will understand.
Basically, I just want to talk to someone that maybe has been through this. He is seeing a therapist as well as I am. I just feel like I am at a loss. I love him, and I just want to figure this out. Has anyone been through couple's therapy for something like this? Did it help?