Originally Posted by MichellesMomma View Post
I'm always telling him how handsome he is and how sweet and caring he is as well and that without him I dunno what I would do, And I'm always telling him that I love him and miss him very much BUT I only get it in return if I say it, So can someone please tell me what I can do or how can I react to it all better.
It sounds as though you might be appearing too needy. I'm sorry, but that's just not really a sexy/attractive quality for most people. Here's what IS though: knowing your own self-worth, looking after yourself, not relying on someone else for validation.
If you want to lose weight, then do it. Start working out more, eat healthily. There's no need to mention this to him, and certainly do not ask him about it!! Just do what you need to do to feel attractive within yourself. And please remember, beauty and allure is NOT just about the external.
While I have written that I don't feel one should rely on another for validation, in a loving relationship if it's important for you to hear these kinds of things and if he used to do it before (online), then yes he will need to recognize this is something he needs to do for you. It's important for me to hear complimentary words about a variety of things (appearance included). However, first work on yourself. And know within yourself that you actually would
know what to do without him, that you take pride in your appearance and health for YOU ......start here.
My H and I compliment each other a lot. Anything from me telling him how sexy his ass looks in his jeans, to telling him how much I appreciate him. He tells me such things as how beautiful my eyes are, how sexy my body looks, and aspects of my personality that he admires. In our relationship, giving compliments IS normal.