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post #1 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-11-2016, 02:32 PM Thread Starter
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I was hoping TAM folks could give me some guidance. My sister was just told she has appendix cancer. Here's how: She sent me a message that she was in the hospital with a ruptured appendix. The MD did surgery and there were no real complications, and she was sent home. The appendix was sent off for lab work and my sister got a call that cancer cells had been found, they would do further lab work and let her know, what if anything was needed.

She was checking her insurance process on line and learned that the MD had scheduled and obtained pre-approval for a partial coloctomy and she panicked. Her doctor's lack of communication makes my blood boil. I asked her what type of cancer, since there are more than one. She had no idea. I asked if she knew the stage or grade of the cancer, again nope. I asked if they were going to schedule a CAT-scan or MRI, and she said no. So I've convinced her to delay any further surgery until she gets more information and can form an actual plan of attack.

From what I've seen this is a fairly rare type of cancer and I'm concerned this small-town surgeon is out of his league.

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What questions should she have answered before any surgery?


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Re: Appendix cancer

Wow, so sorry to hear that. I've never heard of such a thing! Second opinion!!!

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Wow, so sorry to hear that. I've never heard of such a thing! Second opinion!!!
I know!
She's about half-hour from a major medical center and could easily obtain a second opinion. She said it never occurred to her.

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Absolutely second opinion and possibly third opinion.

Doctors often don't communicate well...they might be book smart but many times they are lacking in basic people skills. Also, there are MANY alternative ways to treat cancer with great results. You can also supplement traditional treatments with alternative for better care. NUMBER ONE is DIET. Does she eat well? Also cut out all sugar as cancer cells feed on it.
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Re: Appendix cancer

Your questions are the right start. From my mother's cancer, I've learned that you shouldn't trust the medical professionals to have your best interest at heart. I'd ask:

1. Actual cancer diagnosis. What is the name for this specific kind? How does this cancer behave?

2. Staging.

3. Preferred Treatment options.

4. List of risks associated with this treatment, and the odds of those risks.

5. Copy of study on said treatment for your review, so you can check their math.

6. List of other treatment options, their success rates and associated risks.

7. Plan in case of failure of first treatment.

8. Effects of not treating this cancer at this time.

Always check the information they provide. My mother was recommended an allotransplant (bone marrow from yourself). The doctors assured her that the odds of curing (not remission mind you) her cancer were 90%, with a 10% mortality. That is flat out untrue, and no one checked the math. We're lucky she lived. The treatment has over 50% mortality in the first year.

If chemo or any form of drug / intravenous treatment is issued, I would recommend that your sister have a family member present at each treatment to personally check the drug and dosage. My mother's second treatment was never administered in the proper dosage. (but I was already on to them from the previous deception. I was present for every treatment, and corrected it every time.)

Whoever is present for this needs to be strong willed and the kind of person who won't take crap from anyone. Standing up to the nurses can get the police called, so be ready for that. They don't take well to having their authority or expertise questioned. A PoA (flat out, not "Durable") cured this problem in my jurisdiction.

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No, her diet is just horrid.

I've heard about the connection between cancer and sugar, before, but I wasn't sure if it was accurate.

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No, her diet is just horrid.

I've heard about the connection between cancer and sugar, before, but I wasn't sure if it was accurate.
There is some question to it. I don't know much about that association though.

There is a known association between cancer cases and fungal infection in the blood. 99% of tumors have a tremendous fungal infection in them; typically candida fungus. Candida fungus' waste product is called mycotoxins, the most carcinogenic substance known to man. The association has been known for over 100 years.

Today, fungal infection is actually one of the primary causes of death among cancer patients receiving treatments.

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Re: Appendix cancer

Yes, she should get a second opinion.

You might find this video somewhat informative. I'm not a medical professional nor have I ever had cancer, but sometimes it's good to know what is out there.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddADeIsXrOw
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No, her diet is just horrid.

I've heard about the connection between cancer and sugar, before, but I wasn't sure if it was accurate.
Well if she wants to recover, she needs to pay attention to her diet. NO processed foods, don't eat anything that has 30 ingredients you cannot pronounce, start eating REAL FOOD, not packaged crap. Organic would be best, although it ain't cheap. Google cancer and sugar. Sorry she is dealing with this.
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There is some question to it. I don't know much about that association though.

There is a known association between cancer cases and fungal infection in the blood. 99% of tumors have a tremendous fungal infection in them; typically candida fungus. Candida fungus' waste product is called mycotoxins, the most carcinogenic substance known to man. The association has been known for over 100 years.

Today, fungal infection is actually one of the primary causes of death among cancer patients receiving treatments.
^^^^ I agree YES

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Well if she wants to recover, she needs to pay attention to her diet. NO processed foods, don't eat anything that has 30 ingredients you cannot pronounce, start eating REAL FOOD, not packaged crap. Organic would be best, although it ain't cheap. Google cancer and sugar. Sorry she is dealing with this.
Also, and she has Lupus. It might not have much of a factor on any surgery, but I would think it would should any chemo be required.

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Your questions are the right start. From my mother's cancer, I've learned that you shouldn't trust the medical professionals to have your best interest at heart. I'd ask:

1. Actual cancer diagnosis. What is the name for this specific kind? How does this cancer behave?

2. Staging.

3. Preferred Treatment options.

4. List of risks associated with this treatment, and the odds of those risks.

5. Copy of study on said treatment for your review, so you can check their math.

6. List of other treatment options, their success rates and associated risks.

7. Plan in case of failure of first treatment.

8. Effects of not treating this cancer at this time.

Always check the information they provide. My mother was recommended an allotransplant (bone marrow from yourself). The doctors assured her that the odds of curing (not remission mind you) her cancer were 90%, with a 10% mortality. That is flat out untrue, and no one checked the math. We're lucky she lived. The treatment has over 50% mortality in the first year.

If chemo or any form of drug / intravenous treatment is issued, I would recommend that your sister have a family member present at each treatment to personally check the drug and dosage. My mother's second treatment was never administered in the proper dosage. (but I was already on to them from the previous deception. I was present for every treatment, and corrected it every time.)

Whoever is present for this needs to be strong willed and the kind of person who won't take crap from anyone. Standing up to the nurses can get the police called, so be ready for that. They don't take well to having their authority or expertise questioned. A PoA (flat out, not "Durable") cured this problem in my jurisdiction.
This is really helpful, thanks, and so sorry about your Mom's ordeal. I hope she's doing better now.

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This is really helpful, thanks, and so sorry about your Mom's ordeal. I hope she's doing better now.
She's great today (knock on wood). I only relayed the details because I hoped they'll be helpful. Glad you thought they might be so. I hope your sister's cancer is a very treatable kind.

If I think of more things, I'll post them later Pluto

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Absolutely second opinion and possibly third opinion.

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NO ONE will advocate for your sister's health like your sister herself. She knows herself, knows her own health, knows her body--so @Pluto2 I strongly encourage you to get 2nd and 3rd opinions, gather info from the doctors and on your own, and THEN help her make a decision for herself.

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Thanks @Affaircare!

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