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post #1 of 73 (permalink) Old 03-19-2016, 06:42 PM Thread Starter
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Anxiety?

Ever since I woke up this morning I've had this terrible feeling in my stomach. It won't go away. Nothing really happened, I'm not sure what's causing it. It's like the feeling on the morning of a very important exam or what I felt as a kid coming home with a bad grade. I believe it's anxiety but it could also be a mild form of a panic attack.

I'm seeing my doctor next Friday about an unrelated issue so I'll ask her about this but what do I do til then? It's a terrible feeling, like I could throw up any second

It also happened in November and lasted about 3 days, it went away on its own.

Any OTC pills that I could take? Any other suggestions?

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Re: Anxiety?

Yes. You may be experiencing early signs of what can develop into a more serious problem. This is how it started for me, nearly 20 years ago. Getting help is great! Early treatment can prevent the fear of the fear, which is what takes serious work to overcome.

Any deaths or other life events in the past 1-2 years?
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You can google "supplements for anxiety" and get a long list. Not sure if any work. But they make work for you even if it is just the placebo effect. You can also try a lavender bath or exercise.

Zoloft is my drug of choice (for anxiety due to relationship issue) but I am trying to get off it.
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Could you be triggering from a traumatic event? Maybe something happened this time of year and your subconscious is remembering it?

Maybe deep breathing exercises or meditation can help? There are apps that will guide you through meditation.
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There is a supplement called L-Theanine that is supposed help anxiety. My friend's daughter was seeing a therapist for anxiety and she was recommended it. I think you can buy it at any health food store. I've seen it at Trader Joes in their Calming Sleeping Formula.
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Re: Anxiety?

Thanks for all the replies and suggestions!

No deaths in the past 1-2 years but my life has been pretty stressful.

This morning I hadn't heard from my family (in Europe) for a while and that's when it started. The idea that something might happen or might have happened to them and I'm so far away is terrible. I have since heard from them but the anxiety is still there.

I ended up buying melatonin (husband's advice) which made me fall asleep at 5pm and I woke up at 11pm and can't sleep any more and the anxiety is still there.

Will have to talk to my doctor about this when I see her on Friday.
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Thanks for all the replies and suggestions!

No deaths in the past 1-2 years but my life has been pretty stressful.

This morning I hadn't heard from my family (in Europe) for a while and that's when it started. The idea that something might happen or might have happened to them and I'm so far away is terrible. I have since heard from them but the anxiety is still there.

I ended up buying melatonin (husband's advice) which made me fall asleep at 5pm and I woke up at 11pm and can't sleep any more and the anxiety is still there.

Will have to talk to my doctor about this when I see her on Friday.
The bold is what you need. Don't let it go. It can get worse.

I have anxiety and social anxiety. It is possible I had some before my second marriage fell apart, but it is pretty intense since. It takes a huge amount of energy for me to go anywhere outside my residence. I find myself exhausted when I get home.

I try to face my fears by sharing my experiences and allowing whatever responses I get cause me to realize they won't kill me, and are just opinions. I fail sometimes. Other times I gain strength.

I don't recommend it to anyone. It's just what I do because of a counselor telling me the only way to get over fears is to face them.

I have to talk to my current counselor about it. I'd recommend you talk to a counselor, too.

Here is a pretty good article on the subject and links to lots of information.

The only trouble is, if you have anxiety and decide to read this or take the quizzes, it can make it worse. You decide if you want to read it. I don't want to be a part of disturbing you more, but just making an offer to help through education is my goal.

It takes hard work to get over this. Sometimes it takes meds. Your doctor and/or a psychiatrist along with a psychologist, can help.

The first two are a quiz and a test that you can take very quickly.

Again, if you think these will cause you more anxiety, don't bother with them. You are doing the right thing by seeing your doctor.

Anxiety Screening Quiz

Anxiety Test

Anxiety, Panic and Phobia Center - Psych Central


Edited to add: Some of the reasons for my anxiety and depression are in the link below. I have had trouble with depression in the past. I'm not blaming all of my issues on this, just to be clear. I am saying this just added to and intensified anything already there.

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I ended up buying melatonin (husband's advice) which made me fall asleep at 5pm and I woke up at 11pm and can't sleep any more and the anxiety is still there.
Hi Annie,

Melatonin is for sleep support. I take it sometimes. I have 3 mg tablets, inexpensive from Walmart, and take one or two AT BEDTIME. The instructions say to take one hour before bedtime. I take them, then read in bed until I fall asleep. Start with one tablet and go from there. I think you can take up to three tablets (9 mg) from what I read. Always remember that supplements are drugs too.

You may be different but when I wake up during the night and cannot sleep that INCREASES my anxiety. Do not take melatonin during the day. It's purpose is to help you get a proper amount of sleep and that might help with anxiety levels. Melatonin will NOT help anxiety directly. Nighttime only.

Do you read? Try reading a good book (not self help) for relaxation.

As for self help, there are a lot of inexpensive ebooks or just goggle anxiety and check out the real good sources such as Mayo Clinic or Web MD.

Anxiety meds will take about 1-2 weeks to take effect. If your anxiety is bad, talk to your doctor about what you can do while the meds start to take effect. I asked and my doctor also gave me Rx for Xanax. I only took it one or two times and don't think it really has any effect ON ME. It works for my wife though. Yes, Xanax is habit forming so only take it briefly and if your anxiety is really bad.

You cannot just stop taking Zoloft or other anxiety meds without doctor helping you. I tried one cold turkey and really made me dizzy. Don't let that stop you from trying them. The proper way to get off them is to slowly reduce the amount you take over a few weeks. I did that and got off them once. I restarted in Dec and have been on since.

I stopped taking Zoloft once because I was feeling better and felt I did not need it. I felt better exactly because it was working well for me.
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By the way, what I've used for many years and works great is Ativan (aka Lorazepam). I think of it as an aspirin for anxiety; a tablet from my wallet just 20 minutes under my tongue and those physical symptoms are gone. Another 6 or 8 hours and the drowsy effect from it has subsided too. I literally don't leave home without it and in a good year only use it a few times! (Sometimes it's good enough just to know it is there)

If that interests you, say something to the doctor like "I don't feel this way all the time. I wish there was something I could take once in a while right at the beginning of these feelings to calm me down."

It's a common med.
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By the way, what I've used for many years and works great is Ativan (aka Lorazepam). I think of it as an aspirin for anxiety; a tablet from my wallet just 20 minutes under my tongue and those physical symptoms are gone. Another 6 or 8 hours and the drowsy effect from it has subsided too. I literally don't leave home without it and in a good year only use it a few times! (Sometimes it's good enough just to know it is there)

If that interests you, say something to the doctor like "I don't feel this way all the time. I wish there was something I could take once in a while right at the beginning of these feelings to calm me down."

It's a common med.
Lorazepam works good. Very similar to Xanax. Both are short term only for spot anxiety vs other drugs like Zoloft that are to be taken daily.

Op, Have you tried eliminating caffeine? Not a solution but might help a little.

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Re: Anxiety?

Thanks for the great suggestions!

I took the quizzes yesterday and they all said I have severe anxiety. I think it feels a little better today. I was actually able to eat last night after being barely able to eat anything yesterday and the day before.

I don't drink much coffee, I used to, but now it's just one cup in the morning and I rarely finish it, so I'd say I probably drink 1/2 a cup daily.

I'm going to see if there is anything else I can do other than taking pills, that will be my last options as I'm not a big fan of anything that can mess with my brain (I'm weird, I know). So maybe I'll look into yoga or some other relaxation techniques, until I'm able to permanently remove the cause of all this.

Thanks again everyone <3
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Bad anxiety day for me today. Relationship stress compounded by work stress. I am taking a Xanax when I get home and I hate needing to do that.

Relationships svck. :-(
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This is what my counselor and I are working with. Amazon has this book. Google had a better explanation of what it is and does. You can look it up on Amazon, if you want.

https://books.google.com/books/about...d=ZOl-BF181mIC

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I have had anxiety problems since I returned from Vietnam. Not only was I in combat almost every day but I got a Dear John letter from my Fiancee of 5 years, six months before our wedding and when I was not able to go home to even talk to her. There is nothing over the counter. The most used drug in the USA is Xanax. It is a very effective anti anxiety medication. I can take up to three a day if needed. I am also on an antidepressant that is also an anxiety reliever. Anxiety can be caused by depression. Talk to your doctor. That is what I did and life is much better now. I used to get anxiety attacks. Felt like I could not breathe, sweated and panicked. I used to run to the doctor a few times a year to get an EKG, thinking I was having heart attacks. They were just panic attacks but my wonderful doctors back then did not now much about that so they were no help. Finally found a doctor who helped me so if you get no help from your doc, find another. A lot of doctors do not want to prescribe certain drugs because they are controlled substances and monitored. They are afraid of being accused of overprescribing controlled drugs. Every time I moved I usually had to go through 5 doctors before I found a sympathetic one who did not accuse me of being a drug addict for seeking the drugs that I know work for me. Keep at it and you will feel better. Xanax works great. I used to panic on airplanes and elevators, even in my car if it was stuck in traffic. Now I take a Xanax and all is well. I have even learned to deal with most of the stuff that causes me anxiety.

If you do not want drugs, and I had never taken even an aspirin as an adult, see a Psychologist for talk therapy. I went from an empty medicines cabinet to a full one now. I finally accepted the fact that I needed drugs to live a normal life. Still do not like it but I do it. I am currently weaning off them but I know what the consequences will be and that I will have to go back on them again.

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This is what my counselor and I are working with. Amazon has this book. Google had a better explanation of what it is and does. You can look it up on Amazon, if you want.

https://books.google.com/books/about...d=ZOl-BF181mIC
So has CBT worked for you? For anxiety or something else?
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