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post #1 of 39 (permalink) Old 03-23-2016, 06:48 PM Thread Starter
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What the heck is going on with me?

I am struggling to figure out what is going on with my body (and mind). It's having a huge impact on my job and life and I am done procrastinating. I was hoping someone could provide some insight.

As per my doctors words I am a healthy young man with no history of illness. Bloodwork and std tests bring up nothing. I am 26. I started feeling the following symptoms about 2-3 years ago.

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-Extreme fatigue: I don't have difficulty falling asleep, but I never get a deep sleep, nor do I feel refreshed in the morning. 5-6 hour sleep average per night. It's gotten to the point where I actually take days off work just to sleep all day and that doesn't really do the trick either. I may have sleep apnea. Today I went to get the monitor to confirm this over the weekend. My gf suggested this because she said I snore and also wake up in the night gasping. So this may be the culprit. I am hoping it is as simple as that.

-Sometimes when I try to sleep I feel like my bones are taut, and my feet get really jittery. No idea...

-Sometimes I find myself having to manually breath. I can't just auto-breath anymore...if that makes sense. Taking an antihistamine helps.

-Not overweight, but I definitely need to get back into daily exercise. I remember the benefits. I've also been eating fresh fruits every morning and trying to eat healthy.

-Lack of concentration/focus: Probably related to sleep, but I also seem to have a huge difficulty focusing in general these days, in particularily at work. It's almost impossible for me at anytime of day to only do one thing at a time. Either on my cell phone or surfing the web while talking to a client. I do meditation and yoga and that does help, but only temporarily. I've been in the same role at my job for 8 years and we've moved buildings a couple times. The work is pretty stress free and my team is amazing but overall maybe I think I am bored of office work. Every day I seem to get more and more jittery at my desk. I just can't sit all day. The work I do does not inspire me. I do not feel any passion here. And I've been in the same city my whole life. I feel like a big move is ahead of me, either to different city or maybe even country. I need change, really bad. I feel like a zombie these days and I crave adventure and something new. Despite how I feel at my job, it pays great and that's why I am still here.

-Just bored, unmotivated. I still play lots of music and hang out with my friends. I love life and laugh a lot, so I don't think my issues are related to some sort of depression or something.

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You have apnea, take it from someone who does. Go get the sleep study, get the machine and that first night if real sleep will be heavenly.

I think I'm afraid to be happy. Because whenever I get to happy, something bad always happens.
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Re: What the heck is going on with me?

Sleep apnea came to mind early in your post. Confirm or eliminate that, then come back here. All the symptoms you described could be due to sleep apnea.

How much do you exercise, meaning how many days a week are you at the gym?

BTW, you have a smart GF. Keep that one.
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You have apnea, take it from someone who does. Go get the sleep study, get the machine and that first night if real sleep will be heavenly.
Prag, go get the sleep test.

Next cut out all wheat, eggs, diary and corn from your diet for two weeks. Drink lots of water and start exercising. How was your blood work, iron level etc?
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5-6 hour sleep average per night.
Another possible cause is your GF.
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Have your Dr.'s tested your iron levels? Make sure they do a full iron panel with ferritin (stored iron) The fatigue, the brain fog, the restless leg thing could all be anemia. Anemia is not as common in men but it does happen. Even if you are not anemic they treat restless leg with iron supplements.

You should also be tested for Lyme and Mono, BTW.
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Re: What the heck is going on with me?

I would def get the sleep apnea test!! That could be a lifesaver literally.
My friend is 36 and has had those problems for years and found out it was due to sleep apnea. Hers was more terrifying towards the end (before finding out what it was) as she said she would wake up at times gasping for air or wake up really confused and out of it. I think those were during the times she had stopped breathing. It scared the crap out of her so she now sleeps with the mask.

During this time she had a lot of the other symptoms as you (insomnia, anxiety, restless legs or body) and we just had attributed it to the fact that she was super stressed with a divorce she was going through.

Well she got better and then started having the waking up scared issues.

So I wonder if sleep apnea was causing all the other things happening to her.

I have a lot of your symptoms as far as tossing and turning at night, allergy probs when lying down, (I usually take a Benadryl at night and it helps with the breathing and restlessness) but I'm sure my issues are stress related border line depression as I've had this in the past and that's what it was. I only know this bc when my life gets "better " or my moods better- I have my energy back.
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Thanks everyone. I will try all of that and start taking iron supplements. I know I don't have mono or lyme disease but great ideas.

I know for sure meat and cheese drag me down, so I am starting to cut that out of my diet. I don't eat eggs often and I don't drink milk. I definitely notice carbs and sugar make me soo tired after lunch, so I've reduced them as much as possible.

For the first little while that I felt this way I thought it was due to aging, but I am learning it is not normal to be this tired this much.

It could be stress related for sure. Definitely stressed these days, from feeling trapped at work (such a good job but I want to live in a different city really bad), deprived of energy from sleep and working on home renovations and from being financially strapped. Really excited to try the sleep apnea air machine.

I changed the layout of my desk today. Hopefully provide a better flow of energy.

I am pretty sure I am not depressed, but I don't know. I am usually quite happy.
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Prag, do you drink diet soda? I went for years not sleeping well and the effects are cumulative. Meaning when you don't sleep well all kinds of things start to happen.

The doctor had no idea what was wrong with me.

I figured out through much trial and error that the aspartame in diet soda messes up my sleep. As soon as I got rid of it I started sleeping well.

Definitely follow up with the apnea but consider cutting out diet soda and aspartame if you ingest any.

Next time I see the doctor I plan on sharing my aspartame discovery.
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Thanks everyone. I will try all of that and start taking iron supplements. I know I don't have mono or lyme disease but great ideas.

I know for sure meat and cheese drag me down, so I am starting to cut that out of my diet. I don't eat eggs often and I don't drink milk. I definitely notice carbs and sugar make me soo tired after lunch, so I've reduced them as much as possible.

For the first little while that I felt this way I thought it was due to aging, but I am learning it is not normal to be this tired this much.

It could be stress related for sure. Definitely stressed these days, from feeling trapped at work (such a good job but I want to live in a different city really bad), deprived of energy from sleep and working on home renovations and from being financially strapped. Really excited to try the sleep apnea air machine.

I changed the layout of my desk today. Hopefully provide a better flow of energy.

I am pretty sure I am not depressed, but I don't know. I am usually quite happy.

Prag:

For an iron supplement, make sure you get "chelated iron" I buy Source Naturals Advanced Iron on Amazon it is cheap and effective. Most iron supplements (Ferrous Sulphate) are super hard on your stomach and are constipating (sorry for the TMI people). You might want to try Melatonin for sleep too.

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Read "The Mind-Body Prescription" by Dr Sarno and his other work.

It's probably all in your head.

Hard to believe, but it's working for me.
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Have you seen a Board Certified Pulmonologist?
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Prag, do you drink diet soda? I went for years not sleeping well and the effects are cumulative. Meaning when you don't sleep well all kinds of things start to happen.

The doctor had no idea what was wrong with me.

I figured out through much trial and error that the aspartame in diet soda messes up my sleep. As soon as I got rid of it I started sleeping well.

Definitely follow up with the apnea but consider cutting out diet soda and aspartame if you ingest any.

Next time I see the doctor I plan on sharing my aspartame discovery.
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Great thought, but I don't drink pop.
Thanks!
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Have you seen a Board Certified Pulmonologist?
Nope! Great idea!
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Read "The Mind-Body Prescription" by Dr Sarno and his other work.

It's probably all in your head.

Hard to believe, but it's working for me.
I believe it!

Thanks everyone.
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