Re: How to help worrying spouse with GAD
Compassion. Comfort. And a good sense of humor.
I am a 43 year old female have GAD as well, and so does my daughter, who is 15. A few years ago I went to my doctor (GP) to ask to, once again, to go on Zoloft (AND Xanax) because I was flipping out so much about getting a puppy. My previous visit had been to him because I was flipping out about switching jobs (I was sobbing for that appointment). With both of these scencarios, I was catastrophizing everything. Thinking of every possible awful scenario (i.e. if my puppy had to get up in the middle of the night, I'd be raped and murdered while taking him out to do his business). The anxiety is very real, even if it sounds totally ridiculous to a normal thinking person. It can be all consuming. In both of these instances, my doctor proscribed me medication, and at my six week check-up he looked at me kindly, both times, and said, "Now. All of those things you were freaking out about.....did any of them happen?" No, of course not. But, he didn't make fun of me. He listened, gently put it into perspective and suggested things like counseling (which I've been doing all along), yoga, etc.
If your wife is not on meds and/or seeing a therapist, I recommend it. I also highly recommend yoga and deep breathing exercises several times a day. I need to practice what I preach.....yoga is sooo relaxing and I don't do it nearly enough!!
I'm on Zoloft again, and I will be on it indefinitely. I've gone on and off it a lot in the last 6 years, and I've learned that I do so much better on it. I can be irrational when I'm not on it The last time I was prescribed Xanax was in February 2015 and that one bottle lasted me at least 6 months. My dr. does not like prescribing it at all, and I respect that, but I really really needed it at the time to get through some days.
So, to sum up....what I said in the beginning....compassion, comfort, sense of humor. Compassion is the biggest one.
If you truly love someone you want that person to have the freedom to become everything they seek. You want your partner to soar, not to imprison them. - Pluto2