Re: What the heck is wrong with me?
You're both right so far. She's got a little bit of some sort of ADHD or something (hell she can't even remember shes married half the time, but that's about story lol). She's quite forgetful, and it bothers me. And sometimes yeah, it makes me feel like she's saying "I'm doing this because I truly don't care about you."
But that's only part of it. I know she's like this. My crazy still goes deeper than that. I may not have explained it well. Along with my original example I gave, think about this: A pet peeve of mine is cooking. If I'm cooking, I want to cook. I don't like people hovering over me, offering tips or suggestions or criticisms. Maybe that's wrong of me, but its me. She knows this. We've discussed this. It's "You cook or I cook, pick one." Still, whenever I'm cooking, she can't help but wander in and start offering tips, and then suggestions, and then finally just grabbing stuff off the stove and taking over.
So now, 8 years into the marriage, and basically any time Im cooking and she's even in the house, I start feeling antsy and testy. Already irritible, because its like, "Yep, shes' gonna come in here any minute and start messing with me. She knows how much i hate it and she's gonna do it anyway."
And of course, by the time and wanders in and is like "Did you stir the potatoes?" Then I'm like "Fine, you cook!" Because in my mind she's been harassing me for the entire meal.
Crazy, right? Same as the bedtime thing. If it's her night for bedtime and she has to "run out" for something, I'm instantly put into a foul mood because she's probably gonna pull the same crap.
Now I'm not for a second blaming my problems on her. Yeah, it's annoying, but it shouldn't bother me this much, adn it's not her fault I obsess about **** that hasn't even happened yet.