Physical & Mental Health IssuesMarriage and relationships are difficult by themselves, but coping with physical or mental health problems can make things even more difficult.
Totally agreed with tmbirdy’s thoughts. You should keep on your counseling and also converse to the counselor about the anxiety, your wife is feeling. I think it would be the finest solution.
I highly recommend Klonapin- Not as addictive as Xanax and works very well- I have been on it for years- and never felt the desire to abuse it. It gets rid of the anxiety, doesn't sedate me, and I feel just fine. The SSRI's and SSNRI's can really do some ****ed up things like making you manic, suicidal, depressed, more anxious, or even feeling schizo...its an experiment trying to find the one that right for you. I suggest you just ask for something for your panic attacks or else the antidepressants might make you have BAD SIDE EFFECTS- The only ones that did not for me are pristiq or effexor- SSNRI's which also kills your sex drive so I don't recommend unless ur severely depressed.
I exercise, running helps a lot of my anxiety, and take klonapin as needed when I start to feel the Panic coming on...I take Pristiq for depression too...but it took 10 yrs to find the anti-depressant that didn't make me nuts, and I mainly take it for my bad PMS or PMDD...If it is jus panic attacks, take a pill for panic disorders not an SSRI or SSNRI- those are pretty dangerous and even MORE addictive....
By the way I have a BA in Psychology if that gives you any reason to trust me, plus I have ALOT of experience with SSRI's AND SSNRI's what you need is something in the Benzodiazapam family, ativan, xanax, klonopin...n take only as needed
Watch out for those SSRI. I just jumped here from the another thread How Did you Choose Your TAM Screen Name? . SSRI's was a living hell for me. BIG MISTAKE FOR ME. But everybody is different.
By the way I have a BA in Psychology if that gives you any reason to trust me, plus I have ALOT of experience with SSRI's AND SSNRI's what you need is something in the Benzodiazapam family, ativan, xanax, klonopin...n take only as needed
I agree (I use a benzo you didn't mention *Diazapam PRN as needed)) and there are times that just knowing I have it available is enough to chill things down.
I use diazepam for muscle relaxer due to my herniated discs in my neck. I'm on the low dose and I take it only when my muscles are out of control with the spasms. It works very well.
The downside is that I can not orgasm when I take them. It's very important to me that I'm able to climax. That's one of the beauties of making love. It does not slow down my willingness and sex drive, which is nice. It only stops me from climaxing.
I also do not want to become dependent on this medication. I've never had medication withdrawal and I hope not to in the future. I prefer all natural supplements before toxic medications.
I use diazepam for muscle relaxer due to my herniated discs in my neck. I'm on the low dose and I take it only when my muscles are out of control with the spasms. It works very well.
The downside is that I can not orgasm when I take them. It's very important to me that I'm able to climax. That's one of the beauties of making love. It does not slow down my willingness and sex drive, which is nice. It only stops me from climaxing.
I also do not want to become dependent on this medication. I've never had medication withdrawal and I hope not to in the future. I prefer all natural supplements before toxic medications.
Just a quickie answer. I was wondering what was going on (failure to climax) or at least mega difficult. It seemed to come and go with (Of course) my use or not of the Diazapam. I'm not sure if I'm taking a very large dose (4mg)? Anyway, things are better. I'm not doing this stuff in my head daily and I'm pretty sure about her and that we are moving ahead. Thanks btw for the feedback. This has been really hard stuff.
Just a quickie answer. I was wondering what was going on (failure to climax) or at least mega difficult. It seemed to come and go with (Of course) my use or not of the Diazapam. I'm not sure if I'm taking a very large dose (4mg)? Anyway, things are better. I'm not doing this stuff in my head daily and I'm pretty sure about her and that we are moving ahead. Thanks btw for the feedback. This has been really hard stuff.
I take 5mg, which is a low dose. I believe the doses come in 2, 5 and 10mgs.
For me, it takes two full days for my system to get back to normal after one dose.
I take 5mg, which is a low dose. I believe the doses come in 2, 5 and 10mgs.
For me, it takes two full days for my system to get back to normal after one dose.
I started with 1 or 2 mg but that didn't really do much. Diazapam seems to have some baggage with it. Slightly more addictive (I'm told) and it stays in your system longer then any of the other Benzos. Between Xanax and Ativan (And Diazapam) I wonder which one is best. Has anyone any opinion on that?
I started with 1 or 2 mg but that didn't really do much. Diazapam seems to have some baggage with it. Slightly more addictive (I'm told) and it stays in your system longer then any of the other Benzos. Between Xanax and Ativan (And Diazapam) I wonder which one is best. Has anyone any opinion on that?
I have tried them all - Valium Xanax Ativan and Klonopin. I loved Valium in an unhealthy way, and think it works better for muscle spasms than anxiety. Xanax has been the best for.major anxiety and panic attacks with Ativan being fabulous for less severe times. Just in last year switched to Klonopin and it has been the best so far at keeping anxiety in check where's the others have been great when anxiety is overwhelming. Ymmv so if one isn't working as well as you would like, definitely try one of the others. Posted via Mobile Device
I have tried them all - Valium Xanax Ativan and Klonopin. I loved Valium in an unhealthy way, and think it works better for muscle spasms than anxiety. Xanax has been the best for.major anxiety and panic attacks with Ativan being fabulous for less severe times. Just in last year switched to Klonopin and it has been the best so far at keeping anxiety in check where's the others have been great when anxiety is overwhelming. Ymmv so if one isn't working as well as you would like, definitely try one of the others. Posted via Mobile Device
Hummm. Its good food for thought. My doctor commented that Valium was a bit more addictive then the others. Maybe its the long halflife? Thanks on the information on how the others worked for you. I'm not in the regular and often anxiety mode. Therapy and group sessions bring it on and being alone to mull things over too long can be a problem as well. It maybe the therapy or the Buspar thats helping but its nice to have a use as needed solution.
Hummm. Its good food for thought. My doctor commented that Valium was a bit more addictive then the others. Maybe its the long halflife? Thanks on the information on how the others worked for you. I'm not in the regular and often anxiety mode. Therapy and group sessions bring it on and being alone to mull things over too long can be a problem as well. It maybe the therapy or the Buspar thats helping but its nice to have a use as needed solution.
I'm not sure what it is about Valium, to be honest with you. It could very well be the long half life. All I know is that I was on it during a period of my life when everything was a mess, and taking Valium, I really just didn't care. It worked well for its prescribed purpose, but it worked TOO well in other areas. It definitely had euphoria-ish qualities and just allowed me to escape from reality -- not a good thing!!
If you are already taking Buspar -- which is a good med for anxiety without all of the possible addition issues -- but just want something to have as a rescue med, definitely ask your doc about giving Xanax or Ativan a try. Most of my panic attacks have been milder in nature -- although a couple were bad enough that I went to the hospital -- and Ativan has handled all but the worst of them with ease.
I hardly ever need it anymore, but I always make sure I get a couple at the beginning of the year from my PCP just in case I need them. Somehow, just knowing it's there has helped and kept me from actually needing to take very many. Anxiety and panic attacks are just so flipping miserable to have that it's nice to have a Plan B if you need it!
I'm not sure what it is about Valium, to be honest with you. It could very well be the long half life. All I know is that I was on it during a period of my life when everything was a mess, and taking Valium, I really just didn't care. It worked well for its prescribed purpose, but it worked TOO well in other areas. It definitely had euphoria-ish qualities and just allowed me to escape from reality -- not a good thing!!
If you are already taking Buspar -- which is a good med for anxiety without all of the possible addition issues -- but just want something to have as a rescue med, definitely ask your doc about giving Xanax or Ativan a try. Most of my panic attacks have been milder in nature -- although a couple were bad enough that I went to the hospital -- and Ativan has handled all but the worst of them with ease.
I hardly ever need it anymore, but I always make sure I get a couple at the beginning of the year from my PCP just in case I need them. Somehow, just knowing it's there has helped and kept me from actually needing to take very many. Anxiety and panic attacks are just so flipping miserable to have that it's nice to have a Plan B if you need it!
I guess I'm complicated. The couples therapist suggested I needed to consider that I had long term depression. *My doctor agreed and I tried Celexa (Really bad sexual side effects) So I switched to wellbruten sr for depression and that seems to make things better. The buspar must be doing something or I'm just not letting infidelity make me flip out so much. I think its the buspar because when I do get into a group or sit down with a tdoc it can go right back to heart hammering, dry mouth flip your wig time.
I tried Atavin. It had a really apparent kick and I was a bit worried about functioning with that in my system. The diazapam seems to me (Maybe its just me) to be really subtle. Its not a giant "Pow" its more of a "Is this doing anything?" and then I notice I'm not having all the anxiety symptoms. The dose is probably low enough that it doesn't get to the euphoric stage? I'm kind of scared about Xanax. I knew a gent who took it daily and he was like... Vegged out. Maybe on the "as needed" it works better but I'm kind of afraid to ask for a switch. The devil you know versus the devil you don't.
I started with 1 or 2 mg but that didn't really do much. Diazapam seems to have some baggage with it. Slightly more addictive (I'm told) and it stays in your system longer then any of the other Benzos. Between Xanax and Ativan (And Diazapam) I wonder which one is best. Has anyone any opinion on that?
I use to not want anything to do with any medication including ibuprofen until I broke my neck. Now that I need certain medicine, my perspective has changed drastically about the usage of any type of medication. What works best is dependent on that particular individual. I found out that I'm very sensitive and allergic to many types of medicine. I take what it best prescribed by my doctor and I take it the way it's suppose to be taken. I do not drink or smoke. Drinking can compromise your health on many different medications, so if you have an occasional drink here and there, it's important to discuss this with your doctor.
I use to not want anything to do with any medication including ibuprofen until I broke my neck. Now that I need certain medicine, my perspective has changed drastically about the usage of any type of medication. What works best is dependent on that particular individual. I found out that I'm very sensitive and allergic to many types of medicine. I take what it best prescribed by my doctor and I take it the way it's suppose to be taken. I do not drink or smoke. Drinking can compromise your health on many different medications, so if you have an occasional drink here and there, it's important to discuss this with your doctor.
I totally agree. I ask because my Doctor had suggested Xanax and Ativan before we settled on Valium. I was a little scared of Xanax -a friend uses it regularly and I thought he was "vegged out" Ativan is a drug that a family member already uses and it seems like xanax to me. In the take as needed scheme I guess I don't mind getting a little vegged out but I don't want to be a zombee. Anyway, I've come full circle on drugs for depression and anxiety. There was this stigma associated with that and all I can say is that it can change when its you that has a problem. *I know how shallow that sounds. I also have to credit the folks who have done MRI scans of the brain and can see mental health problems and also the proper meds restoring the brain to normal functioning. Anyway - I hope that anyone reading this lets talking to a doctor and or a therapist an open option if there is Marital infidelity.
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Re: Anxiety - Medication an answer? 
