Re: Helpful advice needed
People tend to do what is called "displacement" when feeling overwhelmed, anxiety, or depressed about themselves. It's not that your doing anything wrong, your just a convenient target. It takes an understanding person not to become defensive about some of these attacks by the ones we love, because they can be brutal. Hitting where our weakest points are since our loved ones know where they are.
If you're employed, your employer may have an EAP program with counseling benefits attached that are free of charge of "x" number of sessions per year. Most employees don't know about the EAP's so ask you HR personnel.
You're doing the right thing, so keep being patient and understanding. She will appreciate this later.