There but the grace of god go I....
I don't think I could do it. I think I'd hold to either its ours or adopt. Even if that was a deal-breaker for her. This is something that I do not think women are capable of understanding.
When Mrs. Gus and I were going through all of this stuff, I submitted a few samples. Depending on the day of the week, how bright the sun was shining on that particular day, how closely aligned Mars was to the magnetic galactic axis, etc, I'd get varying results. Sometimes the results were good, sometimes they were fine/borderline, and, in one particular instance (due to an *ahem* lube issue
), they were abysmal. Plus, "performing" under those circumstances isn't exactly what I'd call fun.
Long story short... there was a point in time that we thought that we might have to use donor sperm. It was tough for me to hear and we eventually learned that wasn't the case, but by that time I'd come to the point where I told myself that, if nothing else, if we moved forward w/ using donor sperm and had success, that would mean that I'd always have a piece of my wife.
And that was what I really wanted.
Still, I'm not gonna lie... it wouldn't have been easy.
But you know what? Once we found out that our core issues were egg-related, and we were put into contact w/ an egg donor registry? My wife couldn't start browsing that site quickly enough.
"Ooh, Sweetie, look at her... she's pretty!"
"Look, Sweetie... a Latina with blue eyes! We could have babies with your blue eyes!"
"Hmm... I dunno about this one. She's way taller than me. I wouldn't want our kids to be Amazons."
Me? I felt vulgar.
Either way, I think that the difference between men and women in this respect comes down to the way that we're "programmed", if you will -- generally speaking, men want to procreate, and women want to nurture.