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post #16 of 29 (permalink) Old 07-27-2016, 05:54 PM
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Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid

Have you told her that the hearing loss makes her appear 20 years older?

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As if I have all my problems solved, seems wifey needs a hearing aid. One ear is at 55℅ the other maybe 80℅. Between that and her lack of concentration after asking a question it's nearly impossible to have a conversation...

Any suggestions? She's 57 and in top health.
Stand on the side with the least ability to hear and ask in a lowered voice, "Tickle your ass with a feather"?

When she replies with a stern look and raised voice, "What?!", ask, "Typically nasty weather"?



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Sorry, no suggestions and I just couldn't believe you'd ask for any? I thought this would be a godsend for you?!

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Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid

I just got mine 3 months ago at 53... and the audiologist said I was 10 -15 years late in doing it. I was only understanding 60%/45% spoken words ( I became an expert face and lip reader) and at 85%/65% loss. I thought I was dealing with it well enough but eventually between my wife's frustrations and workplace meetings overwhelmed me although it wasn't until a veteran friend got his first and became emotional telling me about how much we were missing did I take that next step.

My life has significantly improved... my wife actually enjoys talking with me longer than 3 minutes now (yes, that is mostly a good thing. ) and meetings are a pleasure again now that I know what is being said and not depending on the slides to tell me what the speaker is referring to, not to mention my team not having to yell when we converse.

It is a little unnerving at first, I was exhausted after the first week but you have to wear them to get used to them and get used to the volume control (mine is through my iPhone), you will use it frequently the first month. Also, get some with a full mute feature, she (and you) will want it.

Get a good set though... you do get what you pay for with this stuff. I landed with a set of Starkey Halo2's and they are worth every penny. My first set was Costco's best and they were disappointing.

I hear birds and crickets again... honestly couldn't tell you the last time that was?

And movies in the theaters... and plays, the list goes on where things are improved.

Oh, and I don't catch flack from the wife anymore over not hearing her... that is worth every penny too.

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My advice, don't ever repeat what you've said already. If you must have a reply from her, insist on eye contact first, then use simple words enunciating each word. When she gets angry for treating her like a child....get over it. There is no pleasing someone determined to not be pleased.
This was one of my wife's tricks... it worked.
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I hear birds and crickets again... honestly couldn't tell you the last time that was?
OT, but I hear crickets all the time when I ask people to name Hillary's achievements.

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Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid

While good judgement should be a sensory feature, unfortunately it's not tied to a sensory organ but the collective does share the path to the brain.

Funnily enough, when cable news does come on my phone's hearing aid mute button is my favourite feature.
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While good judgement should be a sensory feature, unfortunately it's not tied to a sensory organ but the collective does share the path to the brain.

Funnily enough, when cable news does come on my phone's hearing aid mute button is my favourite feature.
I want an app for my TV to automatically mute it when Hillary is talking. That should be pretty easy because her voice is quite distinctive.

As a supposedly human voice, anyway. A robotic shrew would probably sound very similar.

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Have you told her that the hearing loss makes her appear 20 years older?
That would be my suggestion, too. If she's afraid hearing aids would make her seem "old," she apparently has no idea how old she seems when she's constantly saying, "What? What did you say?" and people have to repeat themselves, like with Grandma.

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Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid

I had a similar problem with my mom. She has a very poor eyesight and she refused to wear eyeglasses for a very long time. But when she noticed that itís gotten hard for her to even wash dishes (she canít see how clean plates are), clean her house and that she became particularly clumsy, then she decided to make an appointment with a doctor. Now we want to talk her into doing laser eye surgery http://benconnell.com.au , and the doctors say itís possible. I recommend that you tactfully let your wife notice that she really has issues.

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Aren't you leaving her in May or something?
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Have her try the Lyric inserts. I've been using them for two years. You can't see them and get replacements every 6 weeks or so. Amazing at the lifestyle change. It's like wearing glasses for the first time. She probably doesn't realize what she's missing.

@ $3,300 per year. Standard aids are around @ $5,000 pair

About the only thing you can't do is dive under water. Showering, etc is not a problem,
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Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid

WHAT??

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Part of the problem is the huge house we live in. We are rarely in the same room. I'm in the cat room now (of course he has his own suite ) and she's two floors up. Even when we are in the same floor she has the TV playing or doing something so good luck getting clear audio...

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