Re: Convincing spouse to get hearing aid
I wear hearing aids and I couldn't imagine my life without them. My hearing loss was discovered when I was a child. I wore them at a young age then stopping wearing them as I started to get older (kids are cruel). Once I got out of college, it started to effect me in ways that I finally accepted it. It was hard and emotional for me. It's something that you don't want to admit. I was exhausted from trying to hear things all the time. Focusing so much all the time wore me out! I love pillow talk with my H but it's so hard for me to do.
I've been told that I speak differently but I don't hear it. However, I'm self conscious about it. :-(
It sounds like your wife isn't focusing and that could directly be from the loss of hearing. I tell you, it's EXHAUSTING. She may have just given up.
A few tips for you: 1. Never talk to her from another room. 2. Always make sure that she can see you when you speak. This applies to talking in the dark as well. Talking around a campfire is hard (sad, isn't it). 3. If you ever use letters as if you're spelling something for her, make sure you say something like: D as in Dog. C as in Cat. Certain letters can sound the same (C, D, P, T, B).
Making things a little easier for her will reduce both YOUR frustration and her frustration.
Hearing aids are VERY expensive. Unfortunately, not many companies cover them. My work place just recently provided for a small amount of coverage. It's very minor but is certainly better than what it was before, which was NOTHING.
Sit her down and tell her how frustrated you are about communication with her. Say it in a very loving way and tell her that you'll help her with the whole process (& make sure you do this). In exchange, she'll get a life with better quality; she'll hear the leaves rustle, she'll hear the birds sing, she'll hear the water run in a creek, she'll hear the rain drizzle, she'll hear a baby laugh. Then on the other side, when there's a sound that isn't so wonderful (such as a loud obnoxious person in a restaurant), she can turn down her hearing aids. This is a perk that a person without aids doesn't get!