11-09-2011, 06:08 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Depressed Again H Hates Family- No Holidays for me
I've been married for 2 years and have had lots of problems: due to 1. my family not liking my husband (had no plans, job when we got married)
2. Husband hates my family and doesn't want to do ANYTHING with them (specifically my dad)
3. Financial: Husband is now a student, doesn't work and lives off of my stipend from school (still have 4 years to go)
I have been depressed because of this. During the summer my family, husband, and his family got together to talk about our issues. We had a therapist to help. My family finally said they would try to make things better for my sake (and HAVE). His family said they would be supportive. My husband was quiet most of the time, but finally said he would try. We agreed that my H and I would visit both families for holidays (they live 3 min from each other) and try to get along.
We live in Northern Ca. Both of our families live in SoCal. I miss my family so much but am here because of my education. Husband doesn't let me go alone to visit (he says go but then says I'm a bad wife and selfish). His family is leaving on vacation this chirstmas and not coming home til mid Jan. Now my husband doesnt want to visit my family.
Situation: My Husband doesnt want to try to get along with my family, refuses to go to family gatherings and says I am selfish. My psychologist has told me to put my needs first because of my depression/anxiety. Everyone is playing ball except HIM. I've been dealing with this for 4 years now and its taking its toll.
What should I do? Leave my family and stick with my husband?