Re: Starting to think my wife is making me depressed
First off, take into account we've been together for TEN YEARS. Let that sink in. TEN YEARS is not a black-and-white kind of thing where it's easy to just say "Meh, not working, see ya". C'mon now guys, I know you know this. Don't be so binary. I know SOMEONE can relate.
I knew in writing this would seem like a disaster of a relationship, but believe me it's not. She's actually the one who comes to me and apologizes for her "baggage" and for bringing me down and all that, because she can tell how affected I am by the things she introduces into my life when all I do (according to her) is bring her joy, relief, excitement and security. I'm independent and she's the opposite, and while I USED TO not mind very much, now that we're both mature adults, the dependency is becoming an issue. The thing is, we really do truly love each other, and it's hard to know where to draw the line between 'this relationship is doomed' and 'this is worth fixing'. We enjoy each other's company and I would love to spend the rest of my life with this woman, if she could just figure her life out. Her family is nuts, ok, who's isn't, I can deal with that. The things she CAN help, though, I just wish she would.
I guess I don't know what I'm trying to get out of this thread. I don't really know who to talk to about this, I'm not that kind of person to talk to my friends and family about relationship problems because I feel like it causes a toxic environment, that's why I came here. Sorry if you guys feel like you were victims of mental vomiting. I've been bottling this all up.