Hi there, I'm new to this sort of thing...
To start with, my husband and I dated for about 6 months before getting engaged, 6 months later we were married. We married when I was 21 and he 23. I still have no reason why we married so quickly, perhaps just caught up in the moment of it all (it did not help that our families were very happy and wanted us married).
We are here 2 years later and have had the same issues over and over again. He suffers from depression and is currently on Prozac, but I feel like it is not working. He can be described as having a flat affect, very monotone and does not normally go out of the house to socialize (whereas I am usually okay with going out to eat with friends).. He also, at 25, is looking at having diabetes and high blood pressure. He has actively told me I'm the only reason he is taking the medication he is on now (prozac only), which in turn makes me feel rather trapped. On another note, he is extremely overweight and always has been to a degree it has simply gotten worse as the months and years have gone by. Whew, this is a mouthful and I apologize!!
Basically, these things adding up have me considering if I made the right choice in marrying a man that will do nothing to take care of his physical and emotional issues that are very obviously there. Please offer any input. My friends and family seem at odds with the entire situation. I have also brought these things up to him, and he has said he'd change, that was 6 months ago.
No need to apologize; this post is quite short compared to most opening posts.
When you first broached the issues, what exactly did you say, and how did he respond?
Did he become moody, yell or lash out at you?
What does he do when he gets home from work?
Does he play video games or spend too much time on electronics like phones or computers?
How much time does he spend in front of the tv?
What time do you and he get home? When do you two leave the house in the morning? I read about a family of obese people who pledged to take a walk around the neighborhood everyday come rain, snow, or shine. They lost a ton of weight as a result.