Physical & Mental Health IssuesMarriage and relationships are difficult by themselves, but coping with physical or mental health problems can make things even more difficult.
Does anyone else here suffer from these things? I need to get into therapy here again soon, I feel that I am slowly destroying my life and everyone around me with the constant ups and downs (I'm really starting to think that I am bi polar) I am riddled with constant negative thoughts and to be honest, I'm having a hard time dealing with me, I can only imagine how irritating I am to others in my life.
Anyways, what would you folks who suffer from these ailments say is the most helpful medications? I know I need help, I need to do it for myself and the ones I love. I don't want to end up alone because of this.
I feel that I am slowly destroying my life and everyone around me with the constant ups and downs
There are a couple of things that can help you in this area. One is learning to apply appropriate boundaries. You have to learn to set physical and emotionally boundaries with others and with yourself. Learning to let go of how others react to you is an amazing freedom. It will stop you from continually cycling between extreme ups and downs.
The other part is acceptance. This was a huge part for me. I had to learn to accept me for who I was at that moment; but not forsake personal progress. This is kind of complicated because there are parts that I completely accept and parts that I accept in the moment with the intention of improving on. I have completely accepted that I am never going to like life. Accepting that has created so much freedom for me.
There's also acceptance of some forms of emotional torment. Sometimes there is nothing you can do but allow yourself to feel the pain. And let yourself know everything is going to be OK. No one can take that pain away from you.
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I am riddled with constant negative thoughts
Me too. Constant negativity. My H said to me the other day, "you're constantly stressed." Very true. Earkhart Tolle would say that stress and anxiety are simply resistance to the Now, resistance to what is. Resistance to the Now and to what IS, are forms of insanity because you can never cope with what you've imagined in your mind; you can only cope with what is. A simple way to know if your resisting the Now is to ask yourself, "what is wrong with this moment? not five minutes from now, not tomorrow or yesterday, but what is wrong with this very moment?" Usually there's nothing wrong. There's nothing to solve in that moment. Whatever you've been trying to solve exists only in your mind. Essentially you're trying to fight something and find solutions to things that don't exist and you're oblivious to the Now. But I'm still working on that one. I've had an extremely negative week.
Wow, thank you for the response! How do you go about setting boundaries? I guess what I'm asking is, what types of boundaries? I know I need some.
And that last part really nails it. Nothing is wrong now, there was nothing wrong 5 minutes ago, nor was there anything wrong 5 months ago. How strange, I've never thought about it like that.
i have suffered from anxiety all my life but the last 3 years have been horrible......i finally got help and i am on lexapro.....it has been a godsend for me.
That last part was an eye-opener for me too! I've been trying to live in the now as Tolle suggests. When i'm having a panic attack or severe anxiety attack it really helps me to repeat those questions to myself. I hope to one day stop reacting to what my mind is saying and be able to live in the now all the time.
The way I think of boundaries is developing the ability to recognize a need, recognize how you are trying to meet your need, and accepting the ways you can meet your need without creating guilt, resentment, or anger. Here are some resources to accomplish healthy boundaries:
It took me about five years to go through all of these. I just started Katie Byron's The Work. I'd recommend you get workbooks for Cloud and Townsend's boundary books. They are religious books and I'm not a religious person but their advice was nonetheless extremely helpful.
I have depression and ptsd. I don't like meds so I've gone down another path. It took 3 rounds of therapy to heal my depression. Yes I finally learned how to control my negative thoughts which is how I beat depression.
The ptsd is down to it being a stress disorder as I've learned how to either avoid or manage most triggers. I have to take SUPREME care of myself to continue to beat depression and the triggers. Diet, exercise and rest are key in addition to therapy.
For a while I took a lot of supplements that really seemed to help. The book that got me started was called Depression Free Naturally. I highly recommend it.
I have to take SUPREME care of myself to continue to beat depression and the triggers. Diet, exercise and rest are key in addition to therapy
I forgot about these really important things. It's so important to also get some sunshine.
And I forgot to mention another book called Feeling Good by David Burns. I didnt read the whole thing, just the first few chapters where he talks about cognitive distortions and how to counter them.
Thanks again so much for the replies, I will check out those books As weird as it sounds, it's nice to know I'm not the only one in the world who is like this. Not that I'd wish it on anyone, but it's nice not to be a "freak".
I forgot about these really important things. It's so important to also get some sunshine.
And I forgot to mention another book called Feeling Good by David Burns. I didnt read the whole thing, just the first few chapters where he talks about cognitive distortions and how to counter them.
Sunshine is FABULOUS for depression. Today was a sunny 66 degree day and I've been so happy.
I love that book Feeling Good. It's a good one too.
If I don't eat well my mood tanks and the depression comes back. Stinks because I have to really be careful what I put in my body but the payoffs are worth it.
Sunshine is FABULOUS for depression. Today was a sunny 66 degree day and I've been so happy.
I love that book Feeling Good. It's a good one too.
If I don't eat well my mood tanks and the depression comes back. Stinks because I have to really be careful what I put in my body but the payoffs are worth it.
I'm so happy when i'm in the sun, too! sometimes i think i have seasonal affective disorder (SAD).
I have a horrible craving for junk food, especially at night. i also work really hard to eat right as my mood goes south once i start eating junk. The working out part is soooo important. I need to start doing that again.
I'm so happy when i'm in the sun, too! sometimes i think i have seasonal affective disorder (SAD).
I have a horrible craving for junk food, especially at night. i also work really hard to eat right as my mood goes south once i start eating junk. The working out part is soooo important. I need to start doing that again.
I just bought a house with a pool so I'm going to LIVE outside this summer.
Also started working out again a month ago and I can tell a HUGE difference in how I feel.
I'm trying to get back into running. I do feel better after i run but it's hard to remember that at the end of the day!
I have to FORCE myself to work out. At the moment it's not all that fun but I know I have to so I do it. Sigh. I know at one point it will become addictive and I won't miss a work out for anything.
I've been diagnosed with both. Medication has changed my life, in both good and bad ways. On the one hand, my mood problems and anxiety are ten times better. On the other hand, my libido isn't half of what it used to be. I supposed it's all a question of what you can live with, either way, but for the time being, I'm still taking my medication. Posted via Mobile Device
Anxiety is the horrible thing in this life. I suffered this during the time of my divorce .As my divorce was not so easy but as my life became stable I overcome from this situation. I am sure you will overcome from this soon.
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I forgot about these really important things. It's so important to also get some sunshine. 
As weird as it sounds, it's nice to know I'm not the only one in the world who is like this. Not that I'd wish it on anyone, but it's nice not to be a "freak".
