827Aug

"Someone" was truly looking out for you. Be thankful he didn't get added to your checking account. Cut your losses and run.

heavensangel

I have to be honest.....you're staying even after he threatened to hit you reminded me of a time when I did the same thing with my exH. We were arguing over $1.43. I stood my ground then, even dared him to do it by getting in his face. I told him I might be on the ground after he does it, but when I get up his A** was going to jail. He never did hit me but if he did, he sure could have hurt me! I was thinking with my pride then, not with my head. What I'm telling you is this: I totally understand your wanting to stand your ground against him, but it's not always the safest thing to do. I agree with the others advising you to LEAVE as fast as your little legs will carry you. He sounds dangerous!

And whatever you do, DO NOT add him to your checking account. Once the account is joint, you're both equally responsible for what happens to it; the bank's not going to care who wrote the check/used their debit card. Make him get his own account.

Protect yourself in this situation by removing yourself from it!!!!

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mag000

Run away from this man. Dont waste time

endlessgrief

He has given you a taste or what your marriage to him will be. He has shattered your self esteem. You think you are wrong and he is more than happy for you to beleive it. The mistake you made is minimal, his reaction was way overboard. How is he gonna react when he needs to deal with really big issues?

This man sounds like a bully and they only get worse the more they have you under their thumb. In five years, ifyou marry him, you will be miserable with a kid or two, alienated from friends and family. People like this man ALWAYS isolate their victim and one day you will realize it.

I know it is easier for us to tell you what to do. But you are talking to some veterans in this manner that have been through the blood and guts and would like to save you from going through the same thing.