Biggest Mistake EVER
Okay, sooo.. I was supposed to add my fiance to my account last week, I called they said I could do it over the phone and he said to wait. So, I waited. Well friday comes along and he says "Okay, monday morning you have to add me. Because of funds and if you don't I won't be able to go on my trip." and I said, "Okay, that's fine. I will."
Here began the problem:
First: the lady at the bank was WRONG you cannot add a person to your account over the phone.
Second: because I didn't find this out sooner, I pretty much FUBARED everything he had worked for.
He got mad because I found out we had to go in to the bank to do it. We live 100 miles from the bank. He yelled and said his check went through last night and midnight, last I heard it wouldn't be available til 3PM today... he screamed at me so loud and told me that "I was sitting on my fat ass instead of doing what he told me to do." I argued, we argued... and he ended up so mad at me no matter how much I was sorry.
He told me to shut up and go away, leave him alone and go away. So I did... but then I decided that I wasn't going to just go away, like he could shoo me like a puppy. So I came back and I said, "I'm not going away just because you told me to. Don't treat me like a child." he said, "Seriously, just go away I've never hit a woman in my life but I'm getting pretty close." and I said, "You're going to hit me if I don't go away?" he said, "I will slap you across the face all over this house, don't test me. I may act goofy half of the time but I am capable."
I said, "I'm not going to leave just because you tell me to." he said, "Then you need to find somewhere else to live. If you're not going to do what I tell you to do."
I was stricken.. I couldn't believe those words came from his mouth. I have no choice, either I obey or I kicked out onto the street with credit cards he MAXED out and the love I never felt I had.
I know I'm in the wrong, because I didn't do what he told me to do and I was watching TV and I should have just gotten up and done it. But... I don't know I just feel like a work horse like something he can just throw away whenever he gets sick of me.
He called me a queen b*i*t*c*h and said I'm just like my mother, I leave things til the last minute. I have so many things going on that I can't keep them all straight.... I'm depressed and I seriously hoped that I had a gun today so I could just end it. In fact he made me feel like I should. 20 minutes later he was talking my ear off about the guy who's fixing his truck.
Tell me if I'm wrong, or stupid or a b*i*t*c*h but I'm just so confused right now... I don't know if I'm being a bad woman by not doing what I'm told or what am I supposed to do???