03-10-2012, 08:56 AM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: HUSBANDS MIDLIFE CRISIS - Anyone Go Through This?
Well, I survived my husband's midlife crisis, which happened in 2010. One day he came home from a trip away, told me he was "unhappy with everything" in his life, then two weeks later, left me (but came home two weeks later for ONE day to file for divorce). While he was gone, 900 miles away, he barely worked, got drunk every day, blew almost all our money, and lived with his first serious girlfriend. I didn't know any of this while it was happening-- all I knew was that he "loved me but wasn't in love with me", he wanted nothing to do with our life before (we'd been together 21 years at that point), and he was bound and determined to be happy elsewhere and do whatever he wanted. Absolutely NO ONE was going to tell him what he was doing was wrong.
BUT, he did come out of his fog, and he came home after ten weeks. I won't even say that his midlife crisis ended then: he just learned to deal with the changes he needed in his life more constructively (and dumped the sociopath ex-girlfriend).
I agree with EleGirl: take care of yourself. Do the 180. Prepare for if he doesn't come out of his fog: I know from experience that any pleading you do will fall on deaf ears, and your H's midlife crisis could last longer than my H's.
I am sorry you're going through this: it's so incredibly painful and bewildering. I hope the best for you- for both of you.