02-15-2009, 01:38 PM
Join Date: Feb 2009
| | Marriage Going Downhill
I've been married for just over 3 years. My wife has battled depression and anxiety for most of her life, starting when she was quite young. She's been going to therapy and been on and off medication since a child.
While dating, we had our ups and downs. For the most part things were good, but every now and then she'd have an anxiety attack, or get really negative. Whenever I told her that I was getting bummed out by this, she'd blame me for not loving her enough and saying that I was holding her to an unreasonable standard of perfection. I hadn't dated much before her, and I consider myself an extremely stable and logical guy, so I thought maybe she was right and that maybe all women are like that.
Anyway, fast forward a few years into marriage and I'm not sure what to do. Her anxiety attacks, negativity, and complaining are more frequent now. She's also told me that she feels she doesn't need to work on her issues as much now because I'm more stable and better able to handle it. Although I knew she had issues with depression and anxiety, I had no idea how severe it was and now I feel quite deceived. The more she opens up to me and tells me whats going on inside her head, the angrier I get that I didn't know all the details sooner. We've found a different therapist, hoping that perhaps he can help, but other than that I'm out of ideas. I feel the marriage is going downhill and there's nothing I can do to fix things.