headingthere

I am not his psychiatrist... I am not his psychiatrist. Trying. I have that heavy, almost quesy feeling in the pit of my stomach that I feel when I think I've done something wrong. Oddly, I describe it as "homesick." If that's not Freudian...! Sundays are always the worst when things aren't going right. Tomorrow, with work, things will be fine. Going to Florida later this week to see my mom and two of my sisters who live there. We will have free-ranging therapy sessions; they are very centered and insightful! Thank you for your patient and understanding words..

Catherine602

He may have Asperger's syndrome. They can be high functioning, even brilliant, in a very narrow spectrum. The social ineptness is a prominent feature. There is a wide range of functioning.

See if you recognize him in the description here.

Asperger Syndrome Fact Sheet: National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke (NINDS)

I don't think that knowing what is wrong will help you to connect with him but understanding may help you to disconnect and move on.

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headingthere

I will take a look. You are right... I am searching for a way to take the blame off myself for not helping him anymore. If he's mentally I'll and won't get help, that eases my burden. I guess I also want to understand whether professional intervention WOULD help. If personality disorder, less likely... Same with Aspergers...
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omega

I used to work with kids with Aspergers (but not adults) and it doesn't really sound like Aspergers to me - if it is, it must be REALLY mild. It doesn't really matter though. What matters here is that the relationship is not contributing in a positive way to your life. It sounds to me like he thinks he has depression or anxiety or something along those lines, but it seems like he has never bothered to seek treatment. If he's well educated and refusing to seek treatment, it means he knows it exists but is choosing not to do it. That unfortunately is a reality of depression for many people. It is sad, but no matter what you do, it's not going to change things. Have you been able to fix it so far? No... so you have no reason to believe that sticking around longer will make the difference. I know this is rough to hear because we all want to believe that our love for someone is enough to make them happy, but it doesn't work that way.

I wish that breaking it off could be clean and easy but it won't be. It's like treading water and having something pull you underwater periodically. Try to stay above water and eventually you'll find you've swum away from the thing pulling you under.