04-16-2012, 03:56 AM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: My beloved genius makes me question my humanity
I used to work with kids with Aspergers (but not adults) and it doesn't really sound like Aspergers to me - if it is, it must be REALLY mild. It doesn't really matter though. What matters here is that the relationship is not contributing in a positive way to your life. It sounds to me like he thinks he has depression or anxiety or something along those lines, but it seems like he has never bothered to seek treatment. If he's well educated and refusing to seek treatment, it means he knows it exists but is choosing not to do it. That unfortunately is a reality of depression for many people. It is sad, but no matter what you do, it's not going to change things. Have you been able to fix it so far? No... so you have no reason to believe that sticking around longer will make the difference. I know this is rough to hear because we all want to believe that our love for someone is enough to make them happy, but it doesn't work that way.
I wish that breaking it off could be clean and easy but it won't be. It's like treading water and having something pull you underwater periodically. Try to stay above water and eventually you'll find you've swum away from the thing pulling you under.