05-27-2012, 04:44 AM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Going through a really hard time
My wife and I have been married for 15yrs. We have two wonderful boys 5 and 9. We had a wonderful marriage for a very long time. SHe says that starting 5 years ago that all changed and that she kept me "blissfully ignorant". She told me all of her complaints. I have put in 600 percent effort to make sure all of her needs have been met. I am willing to work at this.
She has been on SSRIs for about a month and going to counselling. I have had what appeared to be an anxiety attack about a week ago and was perscribed SSRI. We have been going to counselling seperately. She will not entertain going together.
At one time we had a wonderful marriage. We were happy. We were in love. Last night she told me that she wanted to know "how much longer do we keep this up?" I had nothing to say. She has stated that she has "checked out". She does not want to work at our marriage and try and fix things. I am willing to work on things.
I don't know what has happened or where it went wrong. I am a loving caring husband. I have a great job, I have been told that I am fun to be with. I will never cheat, lie or steal. I am a great person. My wife is a great person.
In our discussion last night I told her I would not stop her. I have always given her everything she ever wanted. The problem is; i don't want to lose her and destroy our family.
Does anyone have any advice? Can I save my marriage? Or should I reside myself to getting divorced and fight for custody?