06-25-2012, 01:11 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: South Florida
| | Re: Anniversary of MIL's death coming up
Originally Posted by Mavash.
There is no limit on mourning. So that one year thing isn't right. I see with my own husband he will mourn the loss of his mother for years to come. He however isn't depressed and will get on with his life. Unless her grief affects her day to day activities I'd let it go.
My thoughts are with you and your husband Mavash.
Back to my situation...that's the issue, it DOES affect her day to day activities, she basically does NOTHING all day long. She doesn't work and doesn't do anything around the house. It's awful and I couldn't imagine living like that.
She's has been blaming a lot of her current depression on her mother's passing. Before that it was her mother's cancer. Before that it was my son's autism. Before that it was her brother's suicide. See why I had to trump up this one year milestone? If I let it go, I'm doing her a disservice by enabling her.
I lost my dad about 6 years ago and still miss him dearly every single day but I dealt with it and it has never prevented me from working or doing anything else in life.