06-20-2012, 08:03 AM
Join Date: Jan 2012
| | Re: Questions about depression/BPD/Bipolar
Originally Posted by thunderstruck
Again, sorry. Are these new/big issues popping up with his family? Seems odd that he would turn dark so quickly. Could there be another woman?
One of the first things I learned about BPD (I looked into it due to my W's behavior) is that you don't tell one that you suspect they are BPD. They typically get angry, and point the finger back at you...kind of like you saw. Could you maybe just give him lots of space for a while, don't engage in arguments, and hope that he pulls himself out of whatever has come over him?
No, he has major issues with his family going all the way back to his childhood. He has told me that he hates me and he hates women. He even brings up issues from our past over 10 years ago that I thought had been resolved! It's maddening. This darkness has been around for a while, but it's getting progressively worse. He's definitely paranoid and doesn't trust anyone. I'm 100% positive there's no other woman.
When I got home from work yesterday he was not home and he didn't get home until after I went to bed. I have no idea where he was. This morning I was on the computer, he came in, kissed me on the head, and left. We have not spoken besides him telling me he doesn't want to have anything to do with me.
He's getting a lot of space from me.
Last edited by RT50; 06-20-2012 at 08:07 AM.