06-23-2012, 09:41 AM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | married no kids wife not in love and depression
My wife and I have been together since 21 years of age for 12 years (3 of them married) no children (now 32 and 33 years old).
I have always treated her like a princess, plenty of money so no worries there, do most of the cooking and cleaning as we both work full time and always try to make her life easier – take her out for dinner etc. Took her travelling for the last 3 years to Thailand, Japan, Hong Kong, USA which we both loved. She also has a lower paying job than me which is not stressful.
She went through a stage of depression 6 months ago where she just wanted to sleep all the time and I thought it was her being lazy and admit that I was not helpful or supportive during that period. I felt like her doctor was just trying to drug her up with antidepressants after only a half hour visit, so my opinion was for her not to take them. She seemed to pull herself together and get out of the rut for a while and started seeing her friends regularly which I thought was healthy and helping.
Then it got to the stage where she was going out all the time. No time together. Within the last 4-5 months I asked why she was always leaving me at home and she told me the "I love you but am not in love with you" – more like best friends than lovers.
He mother, my parents and friends can see that she has withdrawn from them over these last 4-5 months and she has admitted herself that she is still suffering from depression and feels like crying.
I encouraged her to go back to the doctor who this time put her on antidepressants but after the first week she was ill from taking them so after seeing a different doctor was told to stop taking them and see a counsellor.
After a recent discussion she has said that she needs space from me, wants to move out for 3 months and in that time get counselling. Does this sound like a good plan as I really love her?