08-15-2012, 04:04 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: I need help.
Originally Posted by CantSitStill
Being in a marriage where you feel like roommates can just build more resentment for both of you. Work it out now, don't wait or you both will be miserable.
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CantSitStill, you are sooo right.
T3, I havent posted here in a while, and have some catching up to do, but i will tell you, someone recommended that I read a book called No More Mr. Nice Guy. It has opened my eyes. Based on what you have posted, i think it may be a good read for you too. My wife deals with depression and anxiety and truly has issues that need to be addressed. I always felt as if that was the basis for our problems. The whole time, i was thinking what a supporting husband i was, unselfish, and always putting her before myself. I have recently realized that some of my actions just made her situation and our situation worse. I hope that whatever the issue(s) is in your relationship, that you are able to address it. Even if this relationship does not work out, you dont want to start a new one with the same bad habits. you are going to9 have to find a way to find happiness and fullfilment within yourself, THEN allow her to suppliment. you cannot depend soley on her for your emotional state, Trust me, it doesnt work. Being a stay at home dad is going to make it more challenging, but not impossible. Even if the NMNMG book is something you relate to, and I hope it is, a professional is still important to teach you how to handle and address the feelings of insecurity and concern.