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post #46 of 218 (permalink) Old 11-25-2012, 04:06 PM
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Re: Are you down with the BPD?

I have begun to push back against her skewed sense of logic, and hope to bring a bit of balance for a few days. I know, silly approach, but I'm trying to stem this tide enough to focus the energy in healthier directions

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I do so love seeing people diagnose themselves with BPD.....lol Like I said, it is "hip" now.
I seriously will never understand why people want to do that.If you're a woman and you self diagnose yourself as BPD,whatever man finds out about it will make sure you're forever labeled as that crazy chick he'll never want to date.

Don't self diagnose,people.Get thee to therapy.
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I don't think BPD is hip at all. I've never been officially diagnosed with it but reading about it is like looking in a mirror. My therapist put ptsd with anxiety on the insurance form I think its just because she had to put 'something' there. So many things fit with me that she could have picked anything really. I was that messed up.

I call myself BPD here only because it resonates and then people know what the old me was like before 4 years of therapy. PTSD with anxiety just doesn't quite cover the magnitude of my craziness. LOL
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I don't think BPD is hip at all. I've never been officially diagnosed with it but reading about it is like looking in a mirror. My therapist put ptsd with anxiety on the insurance form I think its just because she had to put 'something' there. So many things fit with me that she could have picked anything really. I was that messed up.

I call myself BPD here only because it resonates and then people know what the old me was like before 4 years of therapy. PTSD with anxiety just doesn't quite cover the magnitude of my craziness. LOL
You know thought that a therapist/psychiatrist is very unlikely to state BPD as most insurance companies will not pay for that diagnosis.

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You know thought that a therapist/psychiatrist is very unlikely to state BPD as most insurance companies will not pay for that diagnosis.
I've heard that. PTSD is probably covered so she puts that on there instead. My insurance pays for that. I don't give a crap what the diagnosis was I'm just glad I'm better now.
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I've heard that. PTSD is probably covered so she puts that on there instead. My insurance pays for that. I don't give a crap what the diagnosis was I'm just glad I'm better now.
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I've tried so many times to explain to my husband what this feels like to no avail. He never understood what it truly feels like to have crazy thoughts, out of control mood swings and to be in constant emotional pain. To feel truly crazy at times.

He also doesn't fully understand what it takes to keep this at bay either. As so many people say there is no cure for this it's only managed. Every day this gets easier but the crazy thoughts still pop up and I have to deal with them. Talk myself down, remind myself of the truth and that everything is in fact okay.
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I've tried so many times to explain to my husband what this feels like to no avail. He never understood what it truly feels like to have crazy thoughts, out of control mood swings and to be in constant emotional pain. To feel truly crazy at times.

He also doesn't fully understand what it takes to keep this at bay either. As so many people say there is no cure for this it's only managed. Every day this gets easier but the crazy thoughts still pop up and I have to deal with them. Talk myself down, remind myself of the truth and that everything is in fact okay.
That's the hardest part it seems.Getting people to understand the depth of what you go through daily.

My ex used to say "oh sweetie that's everyone at times.don't let a doctor label you with some crazy disorder when you're just normal!!"

I'm still amazed at his reaction.
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I think unless your diagnosed by a psychiatrist after a very thorough vetting, its hogwash. I also say to every woman aged 38 - 55........... MENOPAUSE. Its most likely the issue. Probably 98% of the s/x are the same. Just something to think about
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I think unless your diagnosed by a psychiatrist after a very thorough vetting, its hogwash. I also say to every woman aged 38 - 55........... MENOPAUSE. Its most likely the issue. Probably 98% of the s/x are the same. Just something to think about
This has to be a joke.

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That's the hardest part it seems.Getting people to understand the depth of what you go through daily.

My ex used to say "oh sweetie that's everyone at times.don't let a doctor label you with some crazy disorder when you're just normal!!"

I'm still amazed at his reaction.
I've had to accept the fact that my husband will never truly understand what I go through daily. He's made some insensitive comments over the years too. Didn't understand why I couldn't just "get over it" and you know be happy. Right like it's so easy. LOL

He's better now and does acknowledge how hard I've worked and when the opportunity presents itself I tell him the crazy thoughts that are in my head like how I just had to talk myself out of anxiety over seeing chairs not lined up perfectly or how I felt when he left me to go to the store.

This is far from normal. LOL
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This has to be a joke.
No, it is not a joke. Do some research. If you truly have BPD, i empathize.

But no, its not a joke. Menopause and peri menopause are very real and debilitating and can mimic other conditions.
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At 26 I swallowed two packs of sleeping pills because my boyfriend didn't call me back.

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Im very sorry. Im glad you pulled through. Please note, i said for women aged 38-55. The symptoms a lot of us experience are astonishing. And like someone said, if you dont experience it, you cant possibly understand.

I am in no way diminishing anyone with BPD or any other brain disorder. I have a great amount of empathy for all. I only wanted to point out that if you suddenly begin experiencing things around peri or meno age, its worth looking into.

No offense or belittling or diminishing anyones experience intended. I hope you will see that was not my intent.

Again, i am glad you pulled through.
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When my wife and I went to counseling I told the counselor I thought she was bi-polar. Counselor said no, probably borderline. My wife has never had stable relationships, has cheated on every man she has been with. Has huge anxiety, wakes up nightly to panic attacks and can't breath, has grandious thoughts. She often relates our marriage to some old romantic movie. She was shot when she was 27 while bartending. Has a very sensitive personality and is easily offended. I think she also has symptoms of NPD. She never apoligizes. When I ask her apologize she comes back with, "I've already forgiven myself." She openly says, "It's all about me." With our relationship issues. She constantly insults me and gives me ultimatums. She threatens to leave me (she actaully did 2 months ago) if I don't meet all her demands.
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So you've been diagnosed now?
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