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Re: Are you down with the BPD?

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I've explained to you the situation. Plus, you have access to my blog. If you want to believe I'm not borderline because I was never "officially" been given the label then that is your right.
I can't speak for Pidge but I don't think her question was because she doesn't believe you or whatever. I think she was genuinely curious with no underhanded motives for asking.

I know it's hard not to be defensive but the ladies who have commented here are basically in the same boat as you..we're not here to make you feel pushed aside or doubted.

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I so get what you're experiencing. The holiday's are a particularly hard time for me. i'm so clingy right now to my husband...like a tumor.
In addition to the holidays my husband is out of town for ELEVEN WEEKS. Can you only imagine? LOL

He's done really well with keeping in touch with me every few hours but yesterday he didn't and I flipped out. Now let me explain he could have kept in contact but he chose not to. Instead he LIED by omission to me. In case you haven't read about nice guys - they lie a lot to spare your feelings.

I was proud of myself though. We talked about this calmly and I think I finally got through to him how silence = abandonment. Better to take 10 seconds to send me a text every few hours while he's gone (this is a reasonable request given his schedule) than to do what he did yesterday.

Now today I will have to get back grounded. I'm still feeling a bit icky after yesterday.
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The "quiet" borderline (me) unfortunately presents as too calm and reality based.
I can totally relate to this. I dealt with my anger issues early on in therapy so my husband only saw my quiet, calm side so he had no idea the chaos that was still inside me. This is why I've chosen recently to let him in so he can support me the way I need him to.

It's a risk because I feel it makes me needy and weak. I don't for example like admitting that yes I need him to stay in contact every few hours while he's out of town. I think I should be strong enough to stand on my own but sadly I'm not. I can do it yes but not without some anxiety which flows down to my kids. It's just not worth it.
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Eleven weeks is eternity in my world; you must be stronger than you realize to be separated from your husband for that length of time. I think a text every few hours is very reasonable.
I just finished therapy so yes I'm stronger now than ever. I just need a text every few hours and I'm good. I cried at least once a day for the first 3 weeks but I've since calmed down. It's almost over now. I leave next Friday to go spend the last week there with him then he will ride back with us.

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It's scary to "let" yourself be needy but truth is: you're going to be needy anyway; might as well admit to it.
Yes just figured this out. Finally got to where I was willing to admit it.
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I've explained to you the situation. Plus, you have access to my blog. If you want to believe I'm not borderline because I was never "officially" been given the label then that is your right.
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You crack me up AR.

When will people learn not to mess with BPD'ers. When I get triggered I could easily kick someone's ass.

.......just kidding. That's the old me.
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LOL @AR

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I don't have a blog and I really wish you would quit pushing yours on my thread.
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I can't imagine it's going to be very hard to instigate a fight between two BPD'ers

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Funny AR.



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I can't imagine it's going to be very hard to instigate a fight between two BPD'ers
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I can't imagine it's going to be very hard to instigate a fight between two BPD'ers
She's a "self diagnosed" BPD'er. Not quite the same.

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She's a "self diagnosed" BPD'erWITH A BLOG. Not quite the same.
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