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I seriously will never understand why people want to do that.If you're a woman and you self diagnose yourself as BPD,whatever man finds out about it will make sure you're forever labeled as that crazy chick he'll never want to date.
Unless he wants crazy initial attachment sex, that could be a good plan.

"Hi, my name is Joe and I'm here to rescue you for the next 4-6 months while you bang the snot out of me like a psycho. When you realize my flaws you can hate me and I will kindly exit."
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I am 42 now and perimenopausal. I feel I am doing better now than I was before. I was diagnosed when I was 34 as a BPD'er. I was a horrible person before that and after until I hit rock bottom 2yrs ago. I am by no means "normal" yet but, I am doing all I can to reach some semblance of normalcy.

Thanks for the congrats and kudos.....I'm not fully recovered but, I am "Almostrecovered".
Your hubby waited..i tried to but she had a posOm as soon as she asked for D. I have been NC since she sent a letter telling me... thanks for the memories but I'm in love with someone else..been with posOm 5 mos. Problem for my stbxw is that she won't admit there is anything wrong. takes no blame whatsoever. Lost cause?
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Just an update, still a work in progress. Two steps forward, five back it seems. I'm still trying.
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Re: Are you down with the BPD?

I haven't read this entire thread but:

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states that BPD affects 2-6% of the general population.

So, if you consider a relationship comprises 2 people, then the odds of at least one person in the relationship having BPD doubles, ie 4-12% of relationships. Which is no small number.

Considering that most relationships with a BPDer fail, or have troubles, it's no wonder that we see many befuddled spouses/partners make their way to this place.

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I haven't read this entire thread but:

Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center


states that BPD affects 2-6% of the general population.

So, if you consider a relationship comprises 2 people, then the odds of at least one person in the relationship having BPD doubles, ie 4-12% of relationships. Which is no small number.

Considering that most relationships with a BPDer fail, or have troubles, it's no wonder that we see many befuddled spouses/partners make their way to this place.
I'm not sure what to think of that....Yay I'm not alone or Damn, that makes me sad.
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Are you down with the BPD?

Make the best of it for you and your kids and if your partner is open to it for him or her too.
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post #128 of 218 (permalink) Old 03-17-2014, 11:47 PM
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I haven't read this entire thread but:

Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center


states that BPD affects 2-6% of the general population.

So, if you consider a relationship comprises 2 people, then the odds of at least one person in the relationship having BPD doubles, ie 4-12% of relationships. Which is no small number.

Considering that most relationships with a BPDer fail, or have troubles, it's no wonder that we see many befuddled spouses/partners make their way to this place.
And 40% entered in the Comprehensive Psychiatric Emergency Program have Borderline of which is the highest in personality disorders.
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Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center states that BPD affects 2-6% of the general population.
3Strikes, the 6% figure is the result of the only large-scale study ever done to determine the incidence of BPD in the general population. That study lasted several years because the research team did face-to-face interviews with nearly 35,000 American adults. It was funded by NIMH. See 2008 Study in JCP.

In contrast, the 2% figure was based on the actual percent of the population given a clinical diagnosis of BPD. As I've discussed in other threads, the vast majority of BPDers are high functioning and are never told the name of their disorder because therapists are loath to list the diagnosis as BPD (in order to protect these BPDer clients). Instead, they list it only as a co-occurring clinical disorder such as bipolar, PTSD, GAD, or depression, all of which are covered by insurance.

It therefore is believed that the 2% figure represents the low-functioning BPDers who must be diagnosed and usually must be institutionalized for a while -- and the remaining 4% represents the high functioning folks having full-blown BPD. In addition, there also are high functioning people who satisfy only 70% or 80% of the BPD diagnostic criteria and, thus, "do not have BPD." You nonetheless would miserable if you tried to stay married to one of them.
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So, I found an therapist here that deals with people like me. I start IC next week. Hopefully I won't have to go for years but, we shall see. Joe and I have had issues for forever and now we have them with our youngest daughter, seeing as how the common denominator is me, I can only assume it is all my fault. Not trying to play victim, just stating what I see as fact.

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So, I found an therapist here that deals with people like me. I start IC next week. Hopefully I won't have to go for years but, we shall see. Joe and I have had issues for forever and now we have them with our youngest daughter, seeing as how the common denominator is me, I can only take responsibility for my part. Not trying to play victim, just stating what I see as fact.
Fixed that for you. Much better attitude than fault.
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Fixed that for you. Much better attitude than fault.
Awwwww, thanks!
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Good luck lady! cheering for you!!!
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Well, it seems my disorder is en vogue this month.......lol

My little brother died on April 18, 2015 after losing the fight to cancer. Please help me be able to bury him. My parents do not have the means to do so. http://www.gofundme.com/sd4ch9bk
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Pfft whatever...you're not even human.so there:-p


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