I hope you offer to help her because otherwise it will be a cold and lonely death for her. The time will go fast, what is a month or two of your life worth to her and not so much yourself. You will go on with your life and feel right about her passing.
Thank you for your insightful reply. While you were writing that, I discovered an article in the New York Times called "The Reluctant Caregiver". One response to the article read:
"I strongly disagree with (the author's) claim that there's satisfaction in knowing you haven't turned your back, and you can take pride in that. I'm looking back with resentment and regret at the two years I've already spent in the caregiver role, and I can't imagine that I'll look back in 5 or 10 years or whenever it's over and feel anything but greater resentment and greater regret. I'm never getting these years back, after all, and by the time it's over it may be too late even to get a reasonable level of health back.
I think it does caregivers a disservice to sugar-coat the reality, and claim that even for the reluctant caregiver, there's a benefit there at that end. I'd much prefer to hear the unvarnished truth - that many of us are simply unfortunate enough to be conscripted into a lengthy period of life-wasting, soul-sucking servitude for which there is no compensation and no benefit. I think if more people started telling the truth about this, it might make a dent in everyone's expectation that adult children (daughters and daughters-in-law, in particular) should and will just suck it up and do it."
Right now, I'm kind of stuck between the "you will go on with your life and feel right about her passing" and the "simply unfortunate enough to be conscripted into a lengthy period of life-wasting, soul-sucking servitude for which there is no compensation and no benefit".
While it's true that I still care about this woman, it is similarly true that it was she who chose to sit down with an attorney and conspire to (literally) strip me of my life savings and have me kicked out into the street, under the completely false allegation of "domestic violence". There is still a significant undercurrent of resentment. Not so much that I wish for her to suffer, surely not like this, but just enough to have the thoughts of "as you sow, so shall you reap".
I'm meeting with her and the social worker and the assisted care administrator tomorrow.
May god have mercy on my soul.