Re: Help me understand this
Mavash, that is true, about how he should have ownership of his own triggers and communicate his needs etc. However, that has yet to happen.
I have talked with my IC about various things and my marriage. She has mentioned how my husband may need a Psychiatrist and that I need to go as well. She feels I should tell the Psychiatrist what all has gone on over the years and explain my husbands behaviors, then let the Psychiatrist determine whats going on etc.
In your opinion do you feel its my place to tell the Psychiatrist what has gone on? I see that as my husband not being accountable for his own behavior, as in he should be the one to explain what has gone on. However, my counselor has said she doesn't think that will happen with him. She also said Most people wont go to a Psychiatrist and say, this is what happened in my childhood, this is how I treat my spouse, my moods change frequently etc. So basically its up to me. I guess I just don't see the accountability in that for him. I want him to be helped but shouldn't he want help enough to go and say what he needs to on his own? I feel if I went and told what was going on, even with him there, at some point there would be more resentment from him towards me because of it.
"If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten."