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post #16 of 37 (permalink) Old 01-24-2016, 12:52 PM
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

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If it's easy, it's not really a sacrifice, though, right? Red meat would be easy. (Kinda like my mom giving up wine, but not vodka lol!)

I'm already in counseling .
Apparently, I misunderstood your anxiety. I'm sure you'll figure it out. Good luck.


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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

In my younger years I was often in New Orleans (Bourbon Street) for Mardi Gras. If you are not familiar with deep South Mardi Gras, it is one big party before the start of Lent and it involves partying and drinking for several days. After that, and due to the hangover, I felt like giving up alcohol for good. 40 days was nothing :-).

But seriously, I gave up alcohol for lent the past several years. I was not easy but it felt good that I was able to accomplish that. And I can relate to the anxiety issue. @2ntnuf is right. You should not be using alcohol as a treatment for anxiety, but you already know that.

If you want to try giving up alcohol for Lent, then just do it. I am sure you can do it. Post your progress in this thread once Lent starts or PM me if you want some additional support.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

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I think that it's good idea and has potential to help you change some things in a profound way.

If you are going to give up alcohol, there are some things that could help.

Write down a list of the things that you will do whenever you have a problem with anxiety. Keep the list where you have easy access to it. When you have need to handle your anxiety get the list and work through the things on the list.

Write up a daily meditation and/or prayer related to your anxiety and how you plan to handle it. Say the meditation/prayer aloud first things every day. Then in your mind picture your day hour by hour and what you will do that day and how you will handle things. See yourself using your plan for handling your anxiety.

And of course make sure you have a support system. A couple of people in your real life is good. And you have all of us here too.

You can do this.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

Although I am not religious anymore, I still observe Lent every year by avoiding all (possible) processed sugar. I have done it every year since I was about 10 years old.

So no candy, chocolate, are the obvious ones. Less obvious things are ketchup and many kinds of sauces.

I also have no more than 2 strict meals a day and absolutely no carbs past 4pm. I'm already pretty clean in my diet, but Lent is time for me to get back to good habits.

Alcohol is something I've been whittling down on myself, not because of lent but because my SO doesn't drink. I find the desire is just less.

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I think that it's good idea and has potential to help you change some things in a profound way.

If you are going to give up alcohol, there are some things that could help.

Write down a list of the things that you will do whenever you have a problem with anxiety. Keep the list where you have easy access to it. When you have need to handle your anxiety get the list and work through the things on the list.

Write up a daily meditation and/or prayer related to your anxiety and how you plan to handle it. Say the meditation/prayer aloud first things every day. Then in your mind picture your day hour by hour and what you will do that day and how you will handle things. See yourself using your plan for handling your anxiety.

And of course make sure you have a support system. A couple of people in your real life is good. And you have all of us here too.

You can do this.
This was such a nice message, Ele. It helps me, too.

I have not given anything up for Lent since I was a kid, and my dad decided what I had to give up.

Anyway, thanks again. I really appreciated it.

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Although I am not religious anymore, I still observe Lent every year by avoiding all (possible) processed sugar. I have done it every year since I was about 10 years old.

So no candy, chocolate, are the obvious ones. Less obvious things are ketchup and many kinds of sauces.

I also have no more than 2 strict meals a day and absolutely no carbs past 4pm. I'm already pretty clean in my diet, but Lent is time for me to get back to good habits.

Alcohol is something I've been whittling down on myself, not because of lent but because my SO doesn't drink. I find the desire is just less.
You are very self-disciplined, Satya.

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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

@SecondTime'Round, last year for Lent, I gave up giving up things for Lent.

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@SecondTime'Round, last year for Lent, I gave up giving up things for Lent.

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What a profound sacrifice
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

My Branch of Christianity, doesn't do Lent, but we Fast a lot. And give to the poor. When I started taking medication for type 2 diabetes I had to stop fasting. I came to miss it. Now My Doctor has me fasting every other day. It's just not the same. I still give to help break the bonds of poverty.

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I'm not Catholic, although I do admire a few of the Catholic institutions such as Lent, confession and CCD. And baby baptism is a beautiful tradition as well.

I've never really observed Lent, but I see the value in it, as a Christian.

This year I want to give up alcohol for Lent. When I look at what the biggest sacrifices in my life would be, I think of alcohol, cell phone (except for phone/text for necessary communication), Facebook, TAM .....but if I'm being honest, the toughest one would be alcohol. The scariest part of it for me is that I have anxiety, and one of the reasons I drink alcohol is to alleviate anxiety (which I realize, in the long run, probably only makes it worse). So I'll need to really embrace and TRY other methods to deal with that (like meditation, yoga, Bible reading, etc.).

I can't remember the last time I went 40 days without alcohol. It probably hasn't been since 2002 when I was pregnant with my second child. And certainly not in 2015, since it was my worst year ever.

Lent is February 10 through March 24.

Anyone else participating in Lent?
Well Im Southern Baptist now but any thing you can do for yourself which is a positive go for it!!!(Catholic, Atheist, whatever) I used to give up alcohol as a New Years resolution for the month of January not as a religious thing but just as a New Years thing; however, I punted on that this year. Maybe I'll join you for Lent


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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

Hi,

My understanding of lent growing was to use absendce to purify oneself. To use the desire for something as a call fir pray and mediation. I was also asked to do something proactive to improve the life of others.

On a practical piont start by pushing alcohol out of your home. I never drank alone, never drank in my house except for special events for which I bought the alcohol. I drank only in bars. I am a binge drinker who has not drank in years but I will always be a binge drinker in nature. That habit is why I never came close to being an alcoholic.

If you really need help do not self Medicate. If you do you also risk you ex using it to discredit and demean you. He has a history of that behavior, be on guard.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

OP, Lent starts in a few days. What did you decide? Are you giving up alcohol?
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I'm not Catholic, although I do admire a few of the Catholic institutions such as Lent, confession and CCD. And baby baptism is a beautiful tradition as well.

I've never really observed Lent, but I see the value in it, as a Christian.

This year I want to give up alcohol for Lent. When I look at what the biggest sacrifices in my life would be, I think of alcohol, cell phone (except for phone/text for necessary communication), Facebook, TAM .....but if I'm being honest, the toughest one would be alcohol. The scariest part of it for me is that I have anxiety, and one of the reasons I drink alcohol is to alleviate anxiety (which I realize, in the long run, probably only makes it worse). So I'll need to really embrace and TRY other methods to deal with that (like meditation, yoga, Bible reading, etc.).

I can't remember the last time I went 40 days without alcohol. It probably hasn't been since 2002 when I was pregnant with my second child. And certainly not in 2015, since it was my worst year ever.

Lent is February 10 through March 24.

Anyone else participating in Lent?
I gave up alcohol for Lent as my mate resolved to do it and he was a bit of an alcoholic. I had no idea how tough it would be and it gave me a shock.

Yoga is probably a good call. I have found that slow yin yoga is the best for calmness as measured by by pulse (which is annoying as I am no hippy) and I accept it like medicine. The main advantage will be you can go for a class on Friday and Saturday night, so you will be out with people and not feel trapped at home.

Good luck!
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

Hang in there lady!

I am doing good so far.

Don't feel bad if you had a drink just take a mulligan and start over!

Hope you're doing great!
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I'm hangin' in there so far! It helps that I'm doing it in conjunction with a very low carb/low calorie diet in order to tackle these last several pounds once and for all. I have a date next week, though, so I'm not sure how that night's gonna go......!

I read something a couple of days ago about "40 for 40" or something like that.....giving a bag of something you don't need anymore to charity every day for 40 days. I thought that was a good idea, too.....maybe next year. I'll start saving my stuff .

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