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I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

I'm not Catholic, although I do admire a few of the Catholic institutions such as Lent, confession and CCD. And baby baptism is a beautiful tradition as well.

I've never really observed Lent, but I see the value in it, as a Christian.

This year I want to give up alcohol for Lent. When I look at what the biggest sacrifices in my life would be, I think of alcohol, cell phone (except for phone/text for necessary communication), Facebook, TAM .....but if I'm being honest, the toughest one would be alcohol. The scariest part of it for me is that I have anxiety, and one of the reasons I drink alcohol is to alleviate anxiety (which I realize, in the long run, probably only makes it worse). So I'll need to really embrace and TRY other methods to deal with that (like meditation, yoga, Bible reading, etc.).

I can't remember the last time I went 40 days without alcohol. It probably hasn't been since 2002 when I was pregnant with my second child. And certainly not in 2015, since it was my worst year ever.

Lent is February 10 through March 24.

Anyone else participating in Lent?


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Anyone else participating in Lent?
No alcohol? For forty days?

Okay, but I'm not giving up heroin.
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No alcohol? For forty days?

Okay, but I'm not giving up heroine.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

Oh, and P.S. @Haiku....last year my mom gave up wine for Lent.

My sis and I were out to dinner with her about 2 weeks into Lent and she ordered a vodka/cranberry. She said, "I gave up wine for Lent, so I'm only drinking vodka." True story.

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Oh, and P.S. @Haiku....last year my mom gave up wine for Lent.

My sis and I were out to dinner with her about 2 weeks into Lent and she ordered a vodka/cranberry. She said, "I gave up wine for Lent, so I'm only drinking vodka." True story.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

I typically give up my New Years resolutions for lent.

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You can do it.

I'll give up alcoholic beverages for lent as well.

Not small for me either.

I have about 6 drinks a week, usually on weekends but one or two during the week, during dinner.
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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

I was raised Catholic. We always had to give up candy as children.

I don't do the Catholic traditions anymore, but I love a good fish fry!

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No alcohol? For forty days?

Okay, but I'm not giving up heroin.
This thread took.a fun turn here!

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Re: I'm trying to convince myself to give up alcohol for Lent

Are you a Christian of some denomination?

I ask because as a child, I was motivated by my parents and being in parochial school didn't hurt, either. So, I had others who encouraged, were also a part of and with me each day for six hours of education, as teachers and even as reminders, due to having to attend mass every morning before school.

So, I ask, what is your motivation? Mine was reminders of it being a possible sin, a very small sacrifice in remembrance of the huge sacrifice that the Lord gave, and the idea that it was pleasing to our Lord.

Also, as another posted, we gave up something simple at first, generally it was candy or specifically, chocolate. For Easter, we got baskets full of chocolate and candy, so there was also a reward there. What will your reward be? Honestly, I think getting a basket full of alcohol would be defeating, but who am I to judge? It's how I now think of the chocolate "reward" on Easter Sunday. As a child, I didn't think that hard about it.

And, what about giving up red meat one day a week? Eating fish is good for you. Maybe it will become a habit for one day a week the rest of your life? I mean, who knows how far this could go, if you have the dedication and determination along with the support and some reward?

I suppose as an adult, the reward for eating fish is in knowing you are eating healthier and noticing it in your everyday life. Also, there are delicious fish recipes that can be discovered. I used to love flounder fillet in a salmon mousse, white and wild rice with spices and broccoli.

Anxiety is an issue. That would need dealt with in a healthy manner, whether you give up alcohol completely or not.

And, something else I remembered. Along with giving up something we liked that became a small sacrifice, we also fasted through Lent. It's been a long time, so I don't remember all of it. All of these things went together and made us stronger, whether we sometimes failed and asked forgiveness or were steadfast and strong. The important part was to do the very best we could.

It's a huge undertaking, if done properly. Support will be needed. Good luck.


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Are you a Christian of some denomination?

I ask because as a child, I was motivated by my parents and being in parochial school didn't hurt, either. So, I had others who encouraged, were also a part of and with me each day for six hours of education, as teachers and even as reminders, due to having to attend mass every morning before school.

So, I ask, what is your motivation? Mine was reminders of it being a possible sin, a very small sacrifice in remembrance of the huge sacrifice that the Lord gave, and the idea that it was pleasing to our Lord.
Yes I am a Bible believing Christian. My motivation is exactly what you said...a very small sacrifice in remembrance of the huge sacrifice that the Lord gave. I anticipate that giving something significant up will cause me to lean on God more, and the "reward" is a closer relationship with Him, and a stronger ME overall. Increased gratitude for everything God has done for me as well. I don't think a basket full of alcohol is a good idea either lol!

I didn't know that was the origin of the Easter Basket!

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Yes I am a Bible believing Christian. My motivation is exactly what you said...a very small sacrifice in remembrance of the huge sacrifice that the Lord gave. I anticipate that giving something significant up will cause me to lean on God more, and the "reward" is a closer relationship with Him, and a stronger ME overall. Increased gratitude for everything God has done for me as well. I don't think a basket full of alcohol is a good idea either lol!

I didn't know that was the origin of the Easter Basket!
Why not try something a little less intense? Maybe there is something you can give up easily without it causing you a whole bunch of grief?

Maybe, as part of your sacrifice, you can offer up your anxiety and go to a few sessions of counseling to work on that. What a wonderful gift to give, no? Sacrifice the safety of not talking about it and drinking, for some healing therapy and trust in His help and protection to get you through tough emotional times?

Maybe that, and abstaining from red(blood) meat on Fridays during Lent would be a very worthwhile sacrifice and difficult enough?

I'm no expert. Believe me. I'm just offering an opinion or three.



hahaha As far as the Easter basket I couldn't tell you it's origin, only what I remember from childhood.

The egg represents something. The chocolate bunnies(solid milk chocolate) just represented chocolate in the shape of a bunny, to me. We got ours from a local chocolate maker. They were delicious. And the same maker made egg-shaped chocolate covered delights filled with a choice of solid chocolate with nuts, maple nougat with walnuts, some kind of caramel and nougat and a fruit and nut nougat and only made at Easter.

Oh my, pure evil(selfish pleasure) covered in chocolate. Just kidding.

Guess you'll have to look it up. Sorry.

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The Egg come from the story of Eostre, a pagan goddess. She was worshiped in norther Europe, before Rome took over. There is a story of Eostre finding a bird who was dying. To save it she turned it into a bunny, but the bunny still laid eggs.

The Catholic church was brilliant in incorporating customs from older religions to convert the natives. Worshiping Eostre was done in the spring, and Jesus' death also happened in the Spring. Blend the two together, and you can convert the former pagans who didn't want to give up their old traditions.

And before anyone get upset about the relation of a pagan holiday with a Christian Holdiay, why does it matter? The fun part is the easter egg, and the baskets of candy. But the spiritual peace is in fact the core of Christianity.

And while I don't consider myself Christian, I do believe in this particular message: We are all flawed (sinners) and none of us are beyond redemption. And lent is time to contemplate that.

That said, if you are having such anxiety about giving up alcohol...I don't think you should give it up for lent. I think you should give it up for good.
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Why not try something a little less intense? Maybe there is something you can give up easily without it causing you a whole bunch of grief?

Maybe, as part of your sacrifice, you can offer up your anxiety and go to a few sessions of counseling to work on that. What a wonderful gift to give, no? Sacrifice the safety of not talking about it and drinking, for some healing therapy and trust in His help and protection to get you through tough emotional times?

Maybe that, and abstaining from red(blood) meat on Fridays during Lent would be a very worthwhile sacrifice and difficult enough?
If it's easy, it's not really a sacrifice, though, right? Red meat would be easy. (Kinda like my mom giving up wine, but not vodka lol!)

I'm already in counseling .

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That said, if you are having such anxiety about giving up alcohol...I don't think you should give it up for lent. I think you should give it up for good.
I wouldn't say I have anxiety about giving up alcohol. It's more of a "groan." I just have anxiety in general and sometimes a glass of wine or two helps with that.

But, I'm sure my waistline would benefit from giving it up altogether!

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