Well a cursory read around these parts is a good indicator. I have often read "Her number needs to be low in order to be a good wife". "She will cheat more if she has had partners in the past". "She will pass on her morals to our children and I don't want that for our kids". etc. etc.
Her sexual past is being judged, his is not. Sounds like fear or loathing to me.
Men want women with low numbers. They themselves don't want low numbers but the woman they have a serious relationship with has to. They fear those that do not.
Is that logical enough for ya'?
Well a cursory read around these parts is a good indicator. I have often read "Her number needs to be low in order to be a good wife". "She will cheat more if she has had partners in the past". "She will pass on her morals to our children and I don't want that for our kids". etc. etc.
Her sexual past is being judged, his is not. Sounds like fear or loathing to me.
This wouldn't even be a topic of conversation without the advent of birth control. If a man got a girl pregnant "back in the day," he usually married her to prevent social scorn. Her number would, in fact, be low.
Men want women with low numbers. They themselves don't want low numbers but the woman they have a serious relationship with has to. They fear those that do not.
Is that logical enough for ya'?
Well it is but...
I am a man. My wife has had more sexual partners partners than me. I didn't really care about her number tbh. I have never feared my wife because of her sexual history.
I am a man. My wife has had more sexual partners partners than me. I didn't really care about her number tbh. I have never feared my wife because of her sexual history.
There goes your theory, I guess.
Sure, there are exceptions to everything. I have a higher number than my husband and he doesn't care.
It is however something that most men do not want. Go post in the Men's Clubhouse about a woman's number and with the exception of MEM and Halien, the chorus will sound that her number is an integral part of her character, or lack there of.
This wouldn't even be a topic of conversation without the advent of birth control. If a man got a girl pregnant "back in the day," he usually married her to prevent social scorn. Her number would, in fact, be low.
He married her to prevent a shotgun blast to the face.
Well a cursory read around these parts is a good indicator. I have often read "Her number needs to be low in order to be a good wife". "She will cheat more if she has had partners in the past". "She will pass on her morals to our children and I don't want that for our kids". etc. etc.
Her sexual past is being judged, his is not. Sounds like fear or loathing to me.
You're taking a skewed pre-selected sample. Men on this forum are here because they usually have a problem with their wives, or vice versa, and it would be difficult to extrapolate into wider society what men who suspect their wives of infidelity think.
And turn it around this way: you think men loathe a high sex number in a woman . . . don't women loathe a high relationship/marriage number in their men?
Sure, there are exceptions to everything. I have a higher number than my husband and he doesn't care.
It is however something that most men do not want. Go post in the Men's Clubhouse about a woman's number and with the exception of MEM and Halien, the chorus will sound that her number is an integral part of her character, or lack there of.
I have come to just expect it anymore and no, today's men don't want the virgin.
[QUOTE=IanIronwood;449868]You're taking a skewed pre-selected sample. Men on this forum are here because they usually have a problem with their wives, or vice versa, and it would be difficult to extrapolate into wider society what men who suspect their wives of infidelity think.
Sure, there are exceptions to everything. I have a higher number than my husband and he doesn't care.
It is however something that most men do not want. Go post in the Men's Clubhouse about a woman's number and with the exception of MEM and Halien, the chorus with sound that her number is an integral part of her character, or lack there of.
Fear and want are big differences. Women want (in general) their men to be taller, this does not mean they admire a man because he's tall, or fear a shorter man. It's just something they look for.
And I really do think you are wrong about what most men do and do not want. But I can't speak for most men any more than you can.
It is possible that a sexually active woman may fear a man's reaction knowing that some may reject them on that basis, but if anything, this thread is showing that those women's fears are probably overstated.
Re: Feminism.... 
