I think I understand what you're saying, and I was raised in the country, not an urban setting. I was definitely taught respect and safety in regards to guns. And where I grew up, the idea of not having a gun was just ...alien.
However - not all people in rural areas have respect for human life, and not all people in urban areas are either ignorant to gun ownership or reckless or irreverent to human life.
The USA is a huge place with people of different backgrounds and attitudes, but one thing we have that unites us is the same rights. You can't just say "Well, the rural KY folk who have a culture of respect can have guns and the urban folk who didn't grow up with that culture cannot.
As it is, right now in the big cities where we have the most violence, all the thugs have guns. If the law abiding citizens aren't comfortable with owning guns themselves, they can make that choice, but I believe people should have the choice
. it's not like the criminals are giving up their guns just because it's not legal.
I also wonder what impact it would have on the culture in urban areas if open carry (with a permit) was allowed. I wonder if it might change the culture for the better. The initial image that comes to mind is chaos and people running around shooting others as soon as they feel disrespected or something -- but when you stop and think about it, it seems that most of the people who would do that sort of thing already have guns, legal or not.
BTW - I don't think anyone is suggesting guns for "crowd control" unless you're referring to my belief that thugs might be more civilized if they believed anyone could be armed, or that if some in the protest were armed they might have been able to help stop the shooter faster.
I do the things you mention only because I am afraid of injury or death.
I fear having a gun more than I fear not having one. My husband and I learned how to use shotguns and rifles in KY. We went to a gun range to practice. We learned about gun culture there and it was not what we expected.
The range was connected to a gun shop. While we waited for a berth we hung out with the people talking about our lives and the guns. Most of the time there were families. Great pains was taken to teach their children about the responsibility of gun ownership.
The attitude towards guns is very different from the urban attitude that I am accustomed to. There is a reverence for firearms that seems based on centuries old relationship with them as survival tools. These folks would not be alive if their ancestors did not know how to hunt.
I did not get the sense that people saw guns as crowd control. They certainly did not teach that to their children. In fact, gun culture teaches a respect for life of all forms, killing only as much as is needed and humanely so. I miss them, we felt such warmth and camaraderie with them.
I would not fear guns in the hands of people like the ones we met in KY but I do fear them in the hands of those who are ignorant of a culture that is rich, nuanced and old.
Gun culture protects gun owners and those around them. To own a gun without the proper cultural context is like juggling M-80's a few ft from a crackling bonfire.