(Necessary preface that I'm not taking an anti-gun position here, just discussing)
Does a gun ACTUALLY make you safer, or does it only make you feel safer? To answer that question, you have to consider the entire cost of ownership - including how likely it is you'll use the weapon in defense of self or other and how likely the weapon is to be used against you or, in the case of your immediate family, on someone else in your household.
Owning a gun is not all upside, even if it has positive benefits. Every toddler shot with the handgun from his mother's purse is an example of the downside. We can get into a stats and studies war on the topic (I won't engage in that), but it's not clear to me that for the average American the answer is objectively well known.
We are, for most of us, discussing marginal events when it comes to our personal situations. However, on a generalized basis the studies show that widespread lawful gun ownership and lawful concealed carry do confer a benefit to society in general by reducing violent crime.
But will I be the victim of a violent crime in my own neighborhood? Since I don't use or distribute illegal drugs and live in a middle class neighborhood my personal statistical risk of being victimized is very very low. One time I was targeted was by 3 non-white youths in DC after dark walking from a restaurant. Of course guns were very illegal back then in DC. My wife and I were very healthy and young, and having seen them and the setup in time we were able to escape.
Compare that to the chance of, for example, one of my young grandchildren finding a loaded gun in a home in the neighborhood. The accident rate for children in such situations is likewise negligibly small.
Yet if one is the victim of a violent crime or accident the rate is 100% and the consequences are enormous. I think most people truly misunderstand the scale of the risks and where they occur. The chance of a child being seriously injured or killed in a gun accident is extremely small, as is the chance of anyone being the victim of a mass public shooting. Yet the media and the gun ban crowd hype it up to the point that people have a fear far out of proportion to the actual risk.
Your child is at far more risk of serious permanent brain injury by riding a bicycle or skateboard. You are at far more risk of being hit by lightening than being killed in a mass public shooting.
What we can do is debunk a lot of the pop-media talking points about how much more dangerous it is to have a gun than not have one. Domestic homicide and suicide rates overall do not change. The famous yet false 47 times more likely to harm your family than kill an intruder argument is intentionally
used to deceive the public and I hope everyone who hears that argument immediately realizes the person saying it is intentionally lying to them.
If, for you, the risk of owning a gun seems to high, don't own one.
If someone is going to make the argument that overall public safety is a problem due to lawful gun ownership, I'm going to jump all over them about bicycles, buckets, footballs, cell phones, and any number of other objects or activities with vastly higher accident rates. You can't call for restricting an object based on accident rate unless you're also calling for restrictions on objects with much higher accident rates.