This is very comforting arb. But it is also an issue that I have with my very religious IL's. They seem to think that being freely forgiven = they can just keep on doing wrong things at the same time as finger wagging at other people.
After being confronted with abusing their own children her comment was 'well..I did my best..you'll just have to forgive me.' For some Christians they become lazy with introspection - for others they develop a hyper-vigilant super conscience where they fear they are doing 'wrong' things all the time (my H for example).
I don't understand why God would give us this amazing thing called sexuality and put so many conditions to it.
Ah, they combine hypocrisy and child abuse, my two favourite hates. Don't know if you want to fight them with this, but your best ammunition is probably Matthew 7:21-23 and surrounding verses.
21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ 23 Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’
I heard it used by a wise old preacher, talking about the scariest verses in the bible. Most Christians have their favourite verses, but he asked which is the scariest. This was his answer, with the idea of consider the possibility that you are deluding yourself. So watch ourselves carefully.
Often Christians have a verse or tradition that they use to justify their hypocrisy. These verses are a good counter to that.
Views of and excessive guilt about pre-marital sex are especially hypocritical. Yes there is a commandment against pre-marital sex. But that commandment was not given as the most important commandment. Actually pre-marital sex just gets included with adultery, but people worry mostly about pre-marital sex, and less so about adultery. And coveting gets mentioned in three commandments, but few seem worried about that.