Everything is on a spectrum. Male on one side, female on the other, balance of hormones making us each gender. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to look around and see there are lots of feminine males, and masculine females. It's all on a spectrum. I know some men that are super emotional, some women that are tough as nails. There is something going on that is causing men to have low testosterone.
Anyway... there's what we have physically, vagina and penis and then there is our hormonal composition that makes us FEEL like a certain gender. And sometimes I don't believe they match.
All I know is that I was born female, and I feel like a female.
I don't know what it feels like to be born the wrong gender. I don't know what it feels like to be attracted to women. Therefore I refrain from judgement and offer them compassion because I wouldn't want to feel that way and I'm sorry for those that do.
Masculinity and Femininity, as concepts regarding how men and women behave and interact in society are on a spectrum, to a degree--still not sure that is quite the way to describe them. Male and female are not. Male and female are anatomical. To act as though they are subjective is the anatomical equivalent of saying that if your pancreas wishes it hard enough, it can become a kidney. It flies in the face of reality.
No matter how much I wish I were a woman, I cannot change it. No matter how much I mutilate my body, I cannot change it. It is far better that I learn to live with, and love myself for who I am.
I like to use the body dysphoria example as it is directly analogous. If I feel like my eyes are wrong, and I want to have you help make me blind, would you say that "well, sight is on a sliding scale..."? No sane person would. And no ethical medical professional would. I would be directed to seek help for my affliction, to learn to control this very unhealthy and terrible feeling. Same with my hands. Or fingers. Or toes. Or ear lobes. Or appendix. Or a kidney. Or a lung. Or any other part of me.
Let's take another example... something drastically more controversial...
Pedophilia is a feeling. A desire--sexually--for children. If it is wrong to judge people who have feelings that we do not, then it must be wrong to judge pedophiles. If it is wrong to tell people they can't act out these feelings, then it is wrong to tell pedophiles that they cannot act out their feelings...