Neither I or anyone else in this discussion is saying "never judge people". That's would be absurd. I am saying don't judge people negatively for behavior that doesn't affect others. I don't care what people think, but I do care how they act - but only if those actions negatively affect others.
Ideally in society men and women are treated equally so a trans person really isn't asking to be treated differently (the original point of my first post).
If we consider men and women to be equal (as we should), then why not treat someone as whichever gender they prefer (to the extent that there is any difference in treatment).
If you want a discussion on people who wish to be treated as a different age from their own age, that is a fine discussion, but it is a different discussion. It has nothing to do with being trans. If you start a thread, I'll join. Similarly for someone who wants to abandon their humanity and become an animal. Its a different topic.
But what are we really disagreeing on? Who cares if someone wears pants or a dress? Is this really about bathrooms / locker rooms? Honestly I'm not really happy seeing other guys D###s, and don't tend to look at them. If I'm not looking, why should I care whether or not they have one? Why should a woman care if she notices that someone in the locker room as a D##k? I doubt anyone can grow up these days without having seen a picture of one at some point.
What about my concepts doesn't hold up? I want people to be free to behave in ways that don't harm others. I do not want people to be free to behave in ways that do harm others. I am willing to make some allowances for comfort, but I reject the idea that trans-gender men are offensive in the same way that I reject the idea that women who are not wearing nijabs are offensive
They aren't terrorists. And if they don't identify as rapists, can they be rapists? I thought we aren't supposed to be judging people?
All trans issues are a request to be treated DIFFERENTLY, not a request to be treated the same. A man wants to be treated differently than other men. A woman wants to be treated differently than other women. A 60 year old wants to be treated differently than other 60 year olds. A 12 year old wants to be treated differently than other 12 year olds. An individual wants to be treated like a dog or cat, not a person.
You don't make any sense, and if you take the time to analyze your concepts deeply, you'll see that they don't hold up to any scrutiny.
Now, regarding negative impact and tolerance, see my response to Katie about empathy. Something I think you are obviously lacking in your mad rush to accept all feelings and opinions as equally good/bad.
You still never addressed the issue of trans-age and minors. What if the "minor" identifies as a 60 year old? The 60 year old as a "minor"? Do we take them at their word, or do we say "No. You are [category] as objectively determined. Thus this is not how we will treat you." If you do that with trans-age people, why not with trans gender? Trans species? Otherkin?