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post #1 of 17 (permalink) Old 01-27-2017, 08:44 PM Thread Starter
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21 Regrets of the Dying

These are regrets from the mouths of the dying, recorded by a Catholic priest.

I read them and thought it would be nice to share them. Maybe someone will appreciate them as I do, and reflect on their meanings in their own lives.


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1.For the times when I set a bad example, and there were people who followed my lead

2.For my indifference in the face of someone’s suffering

3.For failing to say so many words of praise, recognition and encouragement to those who deserved them*or needed*them

4.For claiming credit for my triumphs but blaming my failures on circumstances

5.For having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams

6.That I wasted money on things that I didn’t need and never used

7.For the times I took too much time and not enough*effort to forgive

8.For taking advantage of someone who loved me, in order to get something for myself

9.For not being careful to guide those I should have educated better, before it was too late

10.For not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful

11.For fleeing the cross so many times

12.For savoring adulation even while knowing it was false

13.For complaining much more often than I gave thanks

14.For the stubborn, vulgar or rude words that came out of my mouth

15.For participating in conversations making fun of God, the faith or the Church

16.For wasting so much time on empty things… time that can’t be gotten back

17.For the promises I didn’t keep

18.For the times that I could have and should have prayed more, and above all, with more love

19.For ignoring Jesus. The solitude of Christ in the tabernacle hurts me

20.That I hurt or harmed someone in any way

21.For lacking love. I should have loved God and my neighbor much more.

- See more at: 21 Regrets people confess on their deathbeds - Spirituality - Aleteia.org ? Worldwide Catholic Network Sharing Faith Resources for those seeking Truth ? Aleteia.org



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Re: 21 Regrets of the Dying

I thought priests were supposed to keep stuff told during the last rites secret like confession?

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I don't think these were the exact words of the confessors. They were likely the general sentiments of the dying in the priests words.

There is even a comment by a priest that he's never heard this from anyone. If we believe that a priest is not allowed to reveal what is said, we can likely take comfort in the fact that he didn't reveal their exact words or who they came from.

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It's your choice, to believe these words are not worthy of your consideration. I find them to be worthy of reflection. Neither do I ask anyone to get on their knees or worship anyone/anything.

If you aren't able to separate the relevant from the irrelevant, you lose the whole message. I think the message is to live well and treat others with respect and love while you are able.

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It's your choice, to believe these words are not worthy of your consideration. I find them to be worthy of reflection. Neither do I ask anyone to get on their knees or worship anyone/anything.

If you aren't able to separate the relevant from the irrelevant, you lose the whole message. I think the message is to live well and treat others with respect and love while you are able.
Your thread suggests that if I don't worship your God then I will regret it.

I can separate the relevant from the irrelevant, there's at least a dozen good ones in your list.

As an athiest I don't go around telling people what they should do with their Sundays. Or the rest of their lives. Until and unless they try to tell me.
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Your thread suggests that if I don't worship your God then I will regret it.

I can separate the relevant from the irrelevant, there's at least a dozen good ones in your list.

As an athiest I don't go around telling people what they should do with their Sundays. Or the rest of their lives. Until and unless they try to tell me.
Interesting....can you expand on what about it caused you to believe this? Be as specific as possible about yourself. Don't speak for others, if you can help it.

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I'll never regret being an atheist and not wasting my Sundays on me knees begging for help from some invisible bearded dude who lives in the sky and let's bad things happen to people whether they pray or not.
I'm curious. I do not care if one believes or does not believe in religion or God, but where is the hatred and total disdain you express come from?
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Interesting....can you expand on what about it caused you to believe this? Be as specific as possible about yourself. Don't speak for others, if you can help it.
When I read a thread titled "Regrets of the Dying" I naturally expect to see a list of things that people wished they did differently in their lives. All good so far, I can think of many things I wished I did differently including not marrying my exwife.

I then read a list that includes a bunch of religious horsecrap that includes not praying enough to the God of your choice so I reach the natural conclusion that the poster of that thread is trying to ram their religious beliefs down my throat.


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I'm curious. I do not care if one believes or does not believe in religion or God, but where is the hatred and total disdain you express come from?
I think from my Dad.

He always talked about how stupid people are for believing in some sort of supernatural force that lives in the clouds, of which there is not one single solitary shred of existence.
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I think you mean evidence.


How many of those types of quotes did you see? How would you change your mindset to avoid becoming angry over what is irrelevant to you?

I get that you feel you are being forced to consider there is a god and you should be worshipping. That's all inside of you. It isn't anywhere in my post.

Evangelization isn't my thing. I want to be a better person. If that means I take the best from the atheists and the believers to do so, so be it.

How do those statements make you feel?

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Re: 21 Regrets of the Dying

This is a very interesting list and different from others I have seen. I am not Catholic, but I am a Christian and I find the perspective of Catholic Christian's parting thoughts to be interesting and compelling.

The more I read this list, the more it encourages me. Thank you for sharing.

In the OP, the list was in quotes, so I decided to make it easier for others to quote if they'd like to:


1. For the times when I set a bad example, and there were people who followed my lead.
2. For my indifference in the face of someone’s suffering.
3. For failing to say so many words of praise, recognition and encouragement to those who deserved them or needed them.
4. For claiming credit for my triumphs but blaming my failures on circumstances.
5. For having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams.
6. That I wasted money on things that I didn’t need and never used.
7. For the times I took too much time and not enough effort to forgive.
8. For taking advantage of someone who loved me, in order to get something for myself.
9. For not being careful to guide those I should have educated better, before it was too late.
10. For not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful.
11. For fleeing the cross so many times.
12. For savoring adulation even while knowing it was false.
13. For complaining much more often than I gave thanks.
14. For the stubborn, vulgar or rude words that came out of my mouth.
15. For participating in conversations making fun of God, the faith or the Church.
16. For wasting so much time on empty things… time that can’t be gotten back.
17. For the promises I didn’t keep.
18. For the times that I could have and should have prayed more, and above all, with more love.
19. For ignoring Jesus. The solitude of Christ in the tabernacle hurts me.
20. That I hurt or harmed someone in any way.
21. For lacking love. I should have loved God and my neighbor much more.

- See more at: 21 Regrets people confess on their deathbeds - Spirituality - Aleteia.org ? Worldwide Catholic Network Sharing Faith Resources for those seeking Truth ? Aleteia.org

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Sorry, I thought it was necessary to do that so it didn't look like plagiarism. That's the only reason I do that. I'm not sure how it should be done.

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Sorry, I thought it was necessary to do that so it didn't look like plagiarism. That's the only reason I do that. I'm not sure how it should be done.
You gave the link to the source and properly attributed it. No need to be sorry. You didn't do anything wrong. I was trying to be helpful and thought it would be more convenient to make it easier to quote.

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When I read a thread titled "Regrets of the Dying" I naturally expect to see a list of things that people wished they did differently in their lives. All good so far, I can think of many things I wished I did differently including not marrying my exwife.

I then read a list that includes a bunch of religious horsecrap that includes not praying enough to the God of your choice so I reach the natural conclusion that the poster of that thread is trying to ram their religious beliefs down my throat.




I think from my Dad.

He always talked about how stupid people are for believing in some sort of supernatural force that lives in the clouds, of which there is not one single solitary shred of existence.
How about a force (call it a God if you must), that binds the very fabric of the universe, governed by the laws of physics shown to us by this force and of which all things are a part. How about reducing one's arrogance to assume that we are it and there isn't a more powerful, knowledgeable, magnanimous entity in existence that exists on a higher plane (lets call this plane "the clouds"). How about the possibility of something existing that we can't see and don't have physical evidence of. However, I do think the priest included the bits you mention to further the cause of organised religion (which I do believe has a place in this world though not necessarily everywhere and for everyone).

This is my quest, to follow that star
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far
To fight for the right, without question or pause
To be willing to march into Hell, for a Heavenly cause
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I see how one might think that with the below. I hadn't considered these to be offensive to anyone. I figured they could be overlooked or ignored. The last could have been read as: For lacking love. I should have loved my neighbor much more.

Love with charity, empathy and good deeds.

It's possible to leave that small portion out and read what is left in #21. It's still a great sentiment for nonbelievers and atheists.

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15. For participating in conversations making fun of God, the faith or the Church.

18. For the times that I could have and should have prayed more, and above all, with more love.

19. For ignoring Jesus. The solitude of Christ in the tabernacle hurts me.

21. For lacking love. I should have loved God and my neighbor much more.

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