Join Date: Jul 2016
Location: Edging slowly closer to the frozen tundra
Re: America: A Failing Marriage
Ah, but for this to matter to you, you must believe there is no middle ground. That only black and white exist. Married and divorced.
Well, if you've ever exposed yourself to any form of mysticism - whether Eastern or Catholic or Jewish or some flavors of mainstream Christianity - you will be told, more frequently than you'll be told just about anything else - that life rarely exists and certainly does not thrive at the two extremes...but instead, is vibrant and alive in the rainbow world in between.
I have low self-esteem, how do I get it high? That's black-and-white. The colorful approach is to have none at all - that is - just give up self-rating completely. Care not whether you are a good person or not - focus only on your DEEDS. And a deed, unlike yourself, is a fleeting thing. Oops, that deed wasn't useful. No problem, that's in the past now, and I'll make the next one a good deed.
Married or divorced? How about single? The colorful place in between. I was with a woman, we had a legal entanglement and thus we were married. We ended that, in a legal process called "divorce". Note that the word "divorce" refers to the legal process - not the people who went through it. I "am not" divorced. I, however, have been divorced - which only means I went through the process - not that it somehow became a fixed part of my psyche.
And so it goes. Do not claim you "are" married, divorced, left, right, whatever. These are behaviors and we all should vary our behaviors.
I do not think the 'nation' is left or right - I think most people in it are not attached to either side, but when you get two incapable people running for president, it adds fuel to the fires of those who DO think it matters a lot.
Me? In all the administrations I've lived through, the only one who made decisions that I had to adapt to was the last one. And I don't think he was wrong for doing them. And I figured it was a one-time thing.
The country will remain divided as long as we believe that "the truth" exists and that there is value in judging everything good/bad.
There are three kinds of business. Your business, my business and God's business. Whose business are you in? -Byron Katie