For years my wife had built an emotional wall around herself to protect herself in what was a very unhappy marriage. The barrier was built with the strongest brick, mortar and rebar she could muster. She built it well. Bringing down that wall proved to be one of the most difficult challenges of my life. At times it felt impenetrable. But another breach occurred in it a few weeks ago. Those three little words she couldn't find in her to say to me slipped out. They have been repeated on several occasions since. So our story progresses again in a positive direction. I know she still searches for the Eros love for me and I think she will eventually get there. But for now, this was just one more step in the process. Good luck all.
What a great journey. Thanks for sharing.
My wife built her wall a few years back. In addition, I struggled and withdrew myself during a tough job and then a year of unemployment.
Discovery of inappropriate emails/texts caused us to separate. 3 months into it, and I filed for D. After another 3 months of adverserial relations, I slammed on the breaks and sought MC, time, etc.
However, my wife remains disengaged, with no hope of R. We get along great. Our 2 small children have adjusted well. Maybe that's what makes it more painful. She is 2-3 years down her detachment road, where I am starting out again, with under a year of realization.
I want my marriage restored, but realize it will take way longer than I anticipated or hoped. And, most likely, even through D.
I'm on the path for me. 3 weeks into it. I pray and live minute to minute. baby steps.
It's the hardest and most painful thing I have ever experienced.