ReconciliationThis forum is for those focused on reconciliation and success stories from people who have been through separation and reconciled successfully.
Ladies, if you left your husband and children for another life and another man, did you come back? Is there anyone out there that did what they truly felt they had to do only to eventually regret it? I am so worn down by so many sad stories of people who were abused, moved on, can't bring themselves to leave etc. There have to be some happy stories don't there?
Well, I was hoping to look at the same answer, but realisticly, they do not. So hoping that mine will but know she will not. Just tears me up that she is with someone else, still love her so much but she has chosen her path and it is with out me. I still pray that God help her have a change of heart.
Posted via Mobile DeviceI'm currently going thru a similar situation due to several years of neglect and a pornography addiction. After 10 years of marriage, she says she had enough. While I so don't want this divorce, she seems so content. Im so mad at myself for letting it get to this but it's something I think is necessary for me to make some changes. I pray for another chance to show her that I can and will change. I may get it but I may not....
My friends (and hers) seem to think it's a 50/50 proposition with my wife. They all agree the tool she's living with will not last, but that doesn't mean it will fix our problems. To me it's about how badly she misses her relationship with our children. We are a package deal. If she wants to live with them again she will have to try with me. She chose to leave all of us and this is a family decision. She comes back to the entire family or not at all.
I am not sure if I would say I have the happiest story but I have posted before about my reconciliation with my husband. He was verbally and emotionally abusive for years and years. I left him. I bought my own place and dated. So did he. I had a lot of casual relationships during this time and one serious one that lasted an entire year.
After about 2 years of him begging for me back and me telling him to "move on already, I don't want you"...well something happened. I had a major life event (shall we say) and HE was the only one there for me. We started sloooooooooooooowly dating and almost a year later he moved into my house. We are in counseling. Things are not perfect or even great but they are ok... We have a child together so I am willing to compromise on more.
I am not sure if I would say I have the happiest story but I have posted before about my reconciliation with my husband. He was verbally and emotionally abusive for years and years. I left him. I bought my own place and dated. So did he. I had a lot of casual relationships during this time and one serious one that lasted an entire year.
After about 2 years of him begging for me back and me telling him to "move on already, I don't want you"...well something happened. I had a major life event (shall we say) and HE was the only one there for me. We started sloooooooooooooowly dating and almost a year later he moved into my house. We are in counseling. Things are not perfect or even great but they are ok... We have a child together so I am willing to compromise on more.
Would it be intrusive to ask what that major life event was? If it's too personal I understand, but there is the protection of anonymity here. I know I would be there for my wife of she needed me. I think she knows that too.
I am somewhat in this situation now...My husband and I are trying really hard to put out marriage and lives back together. I never physically moved out but emotionally I had checked out at least a year ago...maybe closer to two that I actually gave up.
It's been hard and I'm sure we aren't over the hump as yet...but I really think we will be ok. For now I may not be madly in love with him like he says he is with me, but I'm content and I like him more all the time...which is good considering a year ago I couldn't stand to even look at him.
KRinOnt- I'll tell you. I ended up needing to go to rehab for alcoholism. My boyfriend dropped me like a lead weight (he's an alcoholic too) and only my ex-husband was there for me. He picked up the pieces of my life. He drove me there after I told him I loved the other man. He took care of my house, bills, kids (one isn't even his), contacting my work etc.
And since my post about 2 months ago, I am happy to report I am very much back in love with him!
I honestly don't know if I could take my wife back. I would always feel like I was a second choice. That would really bother me. I would also have such a hard time knowing that she left, carried on intimate relationships with people and decided that screwing around was not worth it.
Maybe it is a pride thing but I would feel like I was such a "tool"
And who's to say she will not just destroy me again.
KRinOnt- I'll tell you. I ended up needing to go to rehab for alcoholism. My boyfriend dropped me like a lead weight (he's an alcoholic too) and only my ex-husband was there for me. He picked up the pieces of my life. He drove me there after I told him I loved the other man. He took care of my house, bills, kids (one isn't even his), contacting my work etc.
And since my post about 2 months ago, I am happy to report I am very much back in love with him!
I'm very happy for you. Right now, if my wife came back begging I'd turn her awayat the door. Just a few short months ago that's all I wanted, but now? Not a chance.
Mark-I am in a similar situation: for the last few years in our 9 yr marriage, I was consumed by my job. It was very high-stress, with long inconsistent hours. Also, I had a couple moments of indiscretion while intoxicated (once made passes at a couple of people, and once running my mouth at a party about another woman's, um, endowment...
Since the "talk" about an impending separation, I have completely quit drinking. I even dumped out all beers from the fridge...in front of her. I have said repeatedly that I don't want to lose her, but she's seemingly emotionless, like she's already grieved for our marriage. I'm hoping this will turn around, but am stuck in limbo waiting for her. I will continue to do so as necessary...but it hurts just the same! Posted via Mobile Device
On Nov 26th I wrote a heartfelt letter to my wife asking her to consider a reconciliation. I felt I needed closure. I needed to know I had done done everything possible and I could now move on. Her response was "I still love you, but not enough or at least not in the right way". That's that I thought.
Yesterday I checked her e-mail ( yeah, I know...but I need to protect myself). She had cleaned out her inbox and junk and deleted everything she didn't need...only keeping work related stuff...with one exception. She put my letter in a new folder she created....all by itself. She had to have done this Tuesday, the day after she spent the morning at the house with me and the kids exchanging Christmas gifts. WTF??
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