geo

I am currently separated(not legally) my wife of 22yrs left 3 weeks ago. I don't have any evidence of cheating, as well as people close to us say they don't think so either. I myself have not even done as much as hold another girls hand since we started dating 24 yrs ago.
My question is how many feel as I do that infidelity is an unforgivable act.. as well as how many have been able to regain a marital relationship after your spouse has cheated, is it possible to trust as well as see the person in the same way that you viewed them before the act.

DanF

Honestly, as a young man, I though that infidelity was unforgivable.
About 4 years ago, I began to think differently because I thought that my wife was cheating. (She was, but was able to convince me otherwise)
More than a year ago, I cheated and my wife found out and went back to her OM for a fling.
We reconciled, got counseling, became honest with each other, worked it out and now have a more loving and stronger marriage than we ever had.
The 100% trust is not there, maybe it never will be, but I honestly believe that she is no longer seeing him and I never want to see the OW again. We are allowed to check up on each other without question.
I love her more than my own life.