Re: Possibility of Saving My Marriage
My spouse said she didn't "love me anymore", didn't want a divorce, but then also didn't want to work on the marriage to make it work again. My situation was a bit different, but in my case there was an OM.
I just have to say, NEVER be regretful in telling him anything, especially in the way you feel. And as I wish this works out for you, I would have to say NEVER stay in a toxic situation that makes you completely unhappy just for the sake of children.
He either wants to work on the marriage if he doesn't want a divorce, or he doesn't want to work on the marriage, in that case he can't just "stick around" thinking everything is going to eventually work out. You and your child deserve their happiness, and while you may be in emotional turmoil beyond all belief right now, you need to do what makes your life the happiest.
As for advice, the only thing I can offer is what I did in my situation. I had to show "tough love", in which I chose separation because I didn't want to be in my toxic situation any longer, and my W wasn't ever going to make a choice so I did. However, in my situation, my W eventually came back after a few months, and then told me she REALLY wanted to work on the marriage, which we are, and it's going great so far. I guess in my situation, reality of a divorce finally hit home to her and she realized she wanted to try the marriage again (well, it's a little more complicated than that in my situation, but that's the short version).
Be strong, and know what you want.
Last edited by alphaomega; 01-17-2011 at 07:02 AM.