That's a cop out. Even during the gut wrenching pain of discovering the video of my XWW having sex with the OM, I did not go out and paid her in kind or worse. We are ALL responsible for our choices.
Until you have been subjugated by a stronger, manipulative, hateful person, you have NO IDEA what abuse does to a person, especially a woman, who is born and raised to see the best in people, to not raise a stink, to give second and twentieth chances, and to not be seen as demanding.
You men have absolutely NO IDEA what living with an abusive man does to a woman's self-belief, self-esteem, self-trust, and faith.
Don't speak about which you are ignorant.
Should abused women seek out an affair partner? Of course not.
Do abused women make excellent targets for men looking for women to cheat with? ABSOLUTELY, because they have, over a series of years or decades, been repeatedly, incessantly, non-stop been told they are stupid, unlovable, worthless, and that no man would EVER put up with them, let alone WANT THEM - except of course for the abuser, who is 'sacrificing' to just let the woman stay in his sphere. So when some man, ANY man, actually, who even speaks to her, let alone shows interest in her, abused women can barely KEEP from being drawn in to such men by that time.