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post #121 of 228 (permalink) Old 05-25-2015, 03:32 AM Thread Starter
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Well, now I'm on the other side. I caught him this weekend going to a girl's house at 1am, drunk, while I have the kids at my grandmother's house for a visit. I called them both out. The girl is terrified I saw his texts, and he's saying "Don't worry. We're just going to hang out and kill time". Then he deleted the entire conversation and called me childish and stupid for calling him out. I am beyond done. My daughter's birthday party is this weekend and then I'm moving out.

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He's still at her house too. He hasn't checked on the kids once today but he's been up her a** trying to hang out.
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Good time to move on.
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My completed petition for divorce is sitting on the table for him whenever he comes home from wherever he is.
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Sorry for how things have worked out but I didn't see him doing anything healthy for reconciliation.

Glad you're calling it quits. Keep working on yourself and get in a better position to eventually attract a good, solid husband.

Chin up hon. You did your best.
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Don't you have to actually file it with the courts?
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I feel very sad for your children. They are the true victims of BOTH their parents immaturity and selfishness.

'I'd rather live by a dream, than live by a lie.
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Today is a national holiday, but I think just having them there is enough to show how serious I am. He's still over there, he told me they're all eating dinner. The girl lives with his best friend and his wife, so he's acting like he really just meant to hang out with the guy the whole time. We have no groceries, my kid is hungry, and he's off at his little girlfriends house with her kid eating dinner.
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I feel very sad for your children. They are the true victims of BOTH their parents immaturity and selfishness.
Fair enough, but at least one of us tried their best to make it right.
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Please go through with it this time. He has repeatedly shown you what he thinks of you and his kids and you have repeatedly shown him that it's ok to abuse you and you'll take it.

He thinks less and less of you every day you stick around because he knows he's treating you like sheet. It makes him feel powerful to know that you'll take it from him.

Your kids really do deserve better.

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And to think, this all started after a "Drunken two-night stand" (not a One night) Now there are 2 kids involved... Just sad!
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Fair enough, but at least one of us tried their best to make it right.
Perhaps, but even if your STBXWH hadn't cheated, you have to admit that it's kind of hard to rebuild a home after you've burned it down.

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Perhaps, but even if your STBXWH hadn't cheated, you have to admit that it's kind of hard to rebuild a home after you've burned it down.
You clearly haven't read her whole backstory. She's made some mistakes but he's the one who burned it down. Please read up on her story.

Being cheated on sucks but it does not give anyone the right to abuse ww spouse or kids. If he couldn't deal with it then it was his right to divorce her, not to stick around and abuse all of them.

I assume when your wife cheated you did not spend the next number of years abusing her, you divorced her. That's what you do.
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And to think, this all started after a "Drunken two-night stand" (not a One night) Now there are 2 kids involved... Just sad!
Read through her other threads. The abuse started well before that.

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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Perhaps, but even if your STBXWH hadn't cheated, you have to admit that it's kind of hard to rebuild a home after you've burned it down.
Again, the abuse started well before her infidelity.

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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